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When Your Partner Hides Purchases and Lies About Spending

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Discovering your partner is hiding purchases, lying about spending, or secretly shopping? Learn why financial deception destroys trust, how to confront it, and whether the relationship can recover. ⚠️ Important Relationship Advice Disclaimer: This content is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered professional relationship counseling, therapy, or mental health advice. Relationship dynamics are highly individual and complex, involving unique personal histories, attachment patterns, mental health considerations, and interpersonal dynamics that require personalized professional guidance. The information provided here does not constitute professional counseling or therapy and should not be relied upon as a substitute for qualified mental health care. If you are experiencing relationship distress, mental health challenges, patterns of unhealthy relationships, or emotional difficulties, please consult with a licensed therapist, relationship counselor, ...
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How Do I Survive Divorce When I am Losing My Best Friend as Well

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Marriage can be a beautiful thing.  When two people come together and publicly declare that they're going to spend their lives together, it will inevitably take people to places that they've never been before.  Sometimes, these places are amazing however, in some cases they are not. Love is a strange and mercurial creature, and at times it can take twists and turns that lead to unpleasant thing.  Living together can be easier said than done, and our tough economic times can cause stress and anxiety.  So it's very easy to have two people, stuck in a tiny apartment, tense beyond words that are slowly driving each other crazy.  Over time, they can realize their compatibility wasn't as great as they once thought.  At first it starts as just an idea, quickly dismissed, that maybe divorce is an option.  Slowly it becomes a suggestion, made by concerned friends.  Towards the end, it becomes an insult.  Then one day, something happens, and it tra...
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How to Financially Protect Yourself Before You File for Divorce

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It has been said that marriages are about love, while divorces are about money.   Like many statements, this is one with elements of truth in it. It misses many parts of the bigger picture, however, as there is often heartbreak, tears, misery, screaming, anger, the husband blaming the wife, the wife blame the husband and both parties blaming themselves involved as well.  It can be a turbulent moment in anyone's life, where questions of identity and persona arise on a daily basis. It can be hard, during a time like this, to keep practical considerations such as finance and money at the forefront of your mind.  It's really important that you do exactly that however, as the decisions and choices you make during the next couple of months could end up effecting the next few decades of your life.  It's imperative that you keep your head clear during the proceedings, even though that is far easier said than done.  Here are some ways to make that impossible task see...
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How Long After Divorce Until I Should Start Dating Again

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Many people ask the question of what amount of time is appropriate to wait before someone moves on after a divorce.   This is a pretty loaded query, due to the emotions involved.  Many people seem to judge their own post-divorce progress based on how quickly they move on to a new relationship, and no small number get caught in the trap of trying to be the to move on first.  This often leads into a series of choices made for the point of some unspoken competition, instead out of actual personal development.  The end result is years of bad decisions made out of desperation, and the best case scenario is you looking up and realizing that you lost your imaginary contest years ago. Most therapists, doctors, and psychological experts agree that after a divorce , people should wait at least a year before serious dating.  Keep in mind that these are the same sort of experts who still can't tell us if chicken eggs are good or bad for human beings, so take that with a ...
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How Can I Survive Divorce When I’ve Been with Him for So Long

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What roles men and woman play in life has changed drastically within only a few generations.  Many women are choosing independent, agency filled lives.  Some attribute dropping marriages rates with the fact that many women aren't socially forced into marriage, by virtue of being unable to gain sustainable income for their household without a man.  Things have changed so much that many women have begun to question the institution of marriage in its entirety. While all of this can be fascinating and engaging material, it can be a dreadful pile of nonsense for the recently divorced woman trying to make sense of her life.  While the options afforded to the American woman are greater than they've ever been in most places, certain cultural hang-ups can be hard to shake.  You may feel like mourning your marriage makes you sound like a spineless shill while, at the same time, having gone through a divorce can also make it feel like you are somehow a failure to your ...
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Getting Through the Depression Stage of Divorce

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The Kübler-Ross model of grief was made as a clinician's tool for understanding the process of how people dealt with the imminent death of a themselves or a loved one..  Since its introduction in 1969, its scope has been widened to deal with just about any tragically poignant transition in a person's life.  As a divorce can feel like the death of a marriage, this psychological model has been applied to these circumstances. While not always the case, Doctor Kübler-Ross found that depression was most commonly one of the last stages in the process of grieving.  It can also be the easiest one to get stuck within, as depression occurs when another person is in such grief over what has happened that they feel they have little agency in changing their life for the better.  What's worse, they don't see a reason why they should want to change anything, as they're not sure how life can get better in light of what they lost. The first thing to realize is that depression ...
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Be Happy and Positive, Negativity Has No Place!

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Though one could be infinitely happy by just enjoying the nature and family and all the human-made things, there are still millions of people who are unhappy.  In the developed countries there is very fortunate circumstance of having both God-given and man-made things.  Still majority of people there are unhappy.  In the developing countries, where for millions there is a real scarcity of even basic needs, people seem to be happy.  There are some people who are engaged in difficult tasks and in warfare, and even incarcerated in prisons, and are still happy!  We have just discussed the factors of happiness.  Millions of people have them, still they are unhappy.  There are millions of others who don’t have them, yet they are happy! You would realize that the mere availability and abundance of God given and human-made things is not enough.  There is something else which should be right to be happy.   Of course, it is our mind that must h...
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20 Ways To Make Someone Smile

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Do you want to put a smile on someone's face today? Maybe make their day a little better. It won't cost you a single penny or much time to do just that. And because smiling is contagious, it probably won't just be one person you make smile today. Here are 20 ways to turn that frown upside down. 1.  Send some flowers to your partner at work. 2.  Compliment a friend or work colleague on their appearance. 3.  Donate something to charity. 4.  Take a friend out to lunch. 5.  Let someone know you miss them. 6.  Make a surprise telephone call to your partner at work, just to say hi. 7.  Hold a door open for someone walking behind you. 8.  Hug your partner for no reason. 9.  Leave a joke on a friends answer machine. 10. Send a card to a friend letting them know what a good friend they are. 11. Give up your seat on the train to someone when there aren't any left. 12. Share your umbrella on a rainy day. 13. Ask a friend if they need a...
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