How to Save a Marriage or Relationship From Catastrophe...

Most men come to sex therapy to learn better technique. But, while it is important to know what she likes specifically, his sexual skill isn’t usually what’s causing the problem. If he’s making a mistake, it’s more likely to be one (or more) of the following: 1. Thinking that her lower desire means he’s unattractive. When a man sees a beautiful woman cross his path, he feels something – something in his body. His attraction stirs sensations in his genitals. The mere sight of his partner can cause a partial erection. But when a woman sees an attractive man, whether her partner or another, it would be very rare for her to feel instantaneous warmth or lubrication in her genitals. Rather, she’s notes intellectually that he is good-looking. Even with the enthusiastic exclamation, “He’s hot!” her genitals don’t signal her that it’s time to have sex. Male desire is rooted in his body; her desire springs from her memory, imagination, and fantasy. Good seduction helps her anticipate the mom...