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Ways To Save A Marriage - Before It Gets Out Of Control

What are some ways to save a marriage? If your relationship has gotten totally out of control, the first thing to do is regain that control. The only way you will be able to make the relationship work is if everything stays calm, cool, and collected. Keeping your heads in times of difficulty is key to keeping the lines of communication open. As soon as communication breaks down then everything is lost and you will pay dearly to get it back. The first thing you need to do is figure out what the heck is going on. As soon as you do that then you can figure out how to fix it. What do the two of you fight about all the time? Money? Money is the number one reason people fight and marriages end. When you first meet and are falling in love, everything is wonderful. It seems as if the two of you were made for each other and you decide to get married. After the wedding you try to combine your lives into one and unless you both learn to compromise, this is where resentments and misunderstandi

Save Your Marriage Alone - Are You Sure

Wow, nothing is worse than being in a marriage that is falling apart right in front of you and knowing that your partner isn't going to try to work with you to fix things.  It's not easy to save your marriage alone, but is it possible if you are willing to put in all the work? The answer to that question is: maybe. The really important thing you have to keep in mind is that sometimes we get so focused in on one goal that we never stop to ask ourselves if the goal is worthwhile. This happens all the time in marriages. One or the other feels the marriage falling apart and they decide they have to save it at all costs. They get so focused on that outcome that they never really stop to ask themselves if they should save it. It might be difficult to hear, and many religions don't say it, but not all marriages should be saved. Sometimes there are simply too many problems to overcome. This is especially true if one partner has a problem. Just look at the recent spate of celebr

How To Save My Marriage - 3 Quick Tips

Are you asking the question: how to save my marriage?  In many cases the longer the problems are allowed to grow, the resentment and anger are allowed to build up, the harder it can be to pull your relationship back from the brink. It can be difficult, but it's not impossible. There are several things you'll need to have in place if you want your marriage to work and the first one is a burning desire to make it work. And it's not enough for just one of you to have that, you both need to have it.  If one or the other of you is indifferent, or worse, doesn't want to, save the marriage, there really isn't much that can  be done. A marriage is a partnership, if you both aren't working together it's not going to work. So step one to answer the question: how to save my marriage is to make sure you are both willing to put in the time and effort. Step two is finding the exact issues that are plaguing you and finding solutions to them. It's easy to think that

Marriage Counseling Questions - Why Are You Here

What questions are the most common marriage counseling questions your therapist will ask you during your sessions? Probably the most important question you will be asked is, "Why are you here?" Now , you might think to yourself that the answer to this question is a big, "DUH!" But, the therapist cannot hear you think and needs to find out exactly why you have come to see them to formulate a plan to help the two of you specific to your issues. Problems can rear their ugly heads at any time during a relationship and sometimes can cause such stress and strife that you just have no clue as to how to handle them. These are the times when a counselor can be helpful. Instead of thinking that the relationship is over it is best to get another opinion and try to save the marriage. Once the issues are out in the open, your therapist will ask more marriage counseling questions like, "Which issue do you think you need to start working on first to help save the marriage