How to Save a Marriage or Relationship From Catastrophe...

So you are thinking of getting back together after a long time apart. Can it work? Well that depends really on how much you both want it to and what caused the breakup in the first place. You are more likely to succeed if you have the backing of your friends and family. Often we break up when we are young, as we are both immature and just don't know what we have, until we lose it.  Other times we can kill off a relationship, because we relocated with our jobs or our families. Often the break up has nothing to do with the people involved just the timing or distance is wrong. But sometimes there were specific reasons why we broke up and if these reasons still exist, then you need to work out why you want to get back together . Absence can make the heart grow fonder but be aware that memories get distorted and you could be remembering events that didn't quite happen that way. Experts call this the "rose coloured glasses" effect. However, if you are thinking of

If you and your partner are still speaking, why not make a date together at your favorite restaurant. A public place is great for a chat about your feelings as you are more likely to keep your temper under control. You cannot let your cozy chat descend into a shouting match or you will disturb the other diners. Sometimes a little work and some private chats are all that is needed to sort out the troubles in a relationship . Life gets so busy that it is easy to lose track of our loved ones and to end up ignoring them or causing them to feel neglected. A few "couple only nights" may be all you both need to get back on track. If you cannot talk alone, why not ask a trusted friend or family member to act as mediator. This can be a difficult step to take and not one that you should enter into lightly. You must pick someone who has the ability to act impartially. This is not the time for any third party to be taking sides. What you are looking for is someone who can help you