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Sharing Your Dreams and Goals As Married Couples Makes A Lot Of Difference

Marriage is always in progression. The two individuals in the marital relationship journey in stages and grow continuously. This marital growth entails a lot of commitment, trust, effort and reciprocity. Healthy and well built marriages are not by chance, but are worked upon. The basic element of “being one” in marriage is companionship. Like friends, couples are open with each other’s interests, dreams and goals.   A married couple often will find it difficult to deal with certain problems when there is no common goal that is established. Goals enable the couple to realize that both are not competing, instead, working together and needing one another’s help. Married couples should cooperate and work for these dreams and goals with all dedication and devotion. Should both you and your spouse’s goals appear to be much different, as they sometimes do, never give up. Talk and recognize both your needs that each goal can satisfy.  You can discover during the process that y...

Factors for Considering a Couple's Renewal of Vows

The renewal of vows is a ceremony where a couple relives their commitment and vows to reaffirm their love and devotion to one another. Here are some factors that a couple may consider when they renew their vows: 1. The couple can set a date that will coincide with the date they celebrated their original wedding. Many couples prefer to renew their vows on the exact date of the 10th, 20th, 25th, or 50th anniversary of their wedding. These are significant dates that they cherish, despite the trials in life as married couples.  2. When renewing the vows after the first year or marriage, the couple should consider the guests to be invited. The renewal ceremony will should not be as large as the original wedding. The couple should invite only close relatives and friends. 3. Make the renewal of vows an appropriate celebration that fits your social circle. Decide if the event should be formal or casual and inform the invited guests. The couple must remember that the vows should be ac...

Quality Time For Each Other

When the couple is planning to have children or already have some, both must not forget to spend quality time with each other alone. If both are working, being together should not just happen when the couple comes home from work. It means that the they should think of other ways to spice up the marriage. Here are some good ideas to carry this out: 1. Even when both people are married, some things do not have to change. The individuals can still go out on dates, such as watching a movie and having dinner in a restaurant like two people who just started dating. 2. The couple can also plan weeks or perhaps months in advance to go out of town or even out of the country and spend the time away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. 3. There are many classes and sports to choose from and trying something new with your partner can be a learning and memorable experience. 4. Some people believe that a match made in heaven means that both will like everything that the other person do...

Marriage Counseling Pros and Cons: The Two Sides of the Story

Marriage is not a human institution or a genius proposition by humanity to establish a society. Marriage is a holy institution, a concept that was generated from God. However, even if marriage is God’s gift to humanity, it is not perfect. This is because marriage is still a human institution, with humans as the primary foundation, and subject to human frailties. No wonder there are almost two million married couples who file for a divorce every year. When taken for granted, marriage can be a commodity that can be easily destroyed once consumed. For this reason, some people have come up with an idea to solve this growing problem. These people believe that it is not right for a married couple to abandon their vows and forget the love that once had bound them together just because of some human weaknesses. It was in the 1950s that marriage counseling was established in Australia. The primary goal of marriage counseling is to maintain an unwavering married life for couples. However, not...

Marriage and Sex Problems: When Married Life is Not Confined in Bed Alone

Every person has his or her own limitations on physical and emotional abilities and strength. These limitations are associated with how each person was morally developed by their parents. Their surroundings, their personal outlook on themselves, their fears, and the level of their acceptance and maturity are also factors. Disparity on sex problems and marriage should never be generalized and concluded. Creating solutions and accepting reality is totally dependent on how the person involved in the relationship can cope with the challenges. In reality, sex is an important tool in keeping the spark in every marriage burning. In fact, some health experts contend that having a good sex life can absolutely make people feel good about themselves and can actually improve one’s overall health condition. That is why, for some people who experience sex problems like erectile dysfunction, hormonal imbalance, inability to achieve orgasm, etc., find it extremely difficult to maintain their marria...

Marriage and Jealousy: When Love is Never Selfish or Full of Insecurity

In life, there can be no greater destructive force in any relationship, especially in marriage than jealousy. It is a powerful yet negative emotion that is rooted on insecurity. Once a person is unsure of himself or herself, jealousy can easily seep in. The dangerous thing here is when jealousy that is not founded on truth can definitely ruin marriage. The negative force that binds a jealous person is relatively difficult to deal with. In most cases, these “green-eyed” persons tend to shun away from the truth. In reality, to be jealous is normal. However, the point wherein the spouse will no longer listen to the truth and will only hold on to what he or she believes in even if those facts were not true is not acceptable. And if the spouse can no longer control his or her jealousy, the future of their marriage will be ruined. With jealousy, it is not surprising why the ratio of marriages to divorce nowadays is 2 to 1. It is no longer shocking why two million couples are getting a di...

Marriage and Insecurities: A Matter of building Confidence

Love is the primary reason why a man and a woman decide to get married. Before their marriage, life seems like a dream because of love. And after marriage, it is love that will give them the strength to hold on to each other so that those dreams will become a reality. However, some couples tend to lose the love that they once shared just because of some deceitful qualities that they have acquired, one of which is insecurity. Insecurity is one of the most devastating tools that will destroy a happy marriage. Once a person feels he or she is not “good enough” to handle the responsibilities in marriage, the assurance that marriage will last will only fail. Most people suffer from insecurity at some time, but it is never healthy in any relationship, especially in marriage. There may be many reasons why a person has insecurities. However, it should be resolved even before they decide to marry. This is because people with very low self-esteem can never make their marriages work out. In fa...