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Three Signs to Let Go and Move On

Ending a relationship triggers numerous emotions which means making the right decision requires some assurances. Seeing the reasons takes a critical eye and an iron will to act upon them. The signs fall into three main categories. Let's look at the reasons along with the subcategories under them. Loss of Meaning: Relationships require support beyond simple things like pleasure or companionship. Shallower items may prop up a failing couple early in the run. Unfortunately, the weight of longer relationships require sturdier supports. Doesn't Mean Anything Anymore: When one no longer feels valued in the relationship, they will wonder what the point of continuing is. This often sounds quite dramatic, but everyone needs to feel valued. The lack of mean eats away at the relationship slowly like a lemon left face down on a marble counter top with its slow destruction to the porous stone. Don't Have Trust: Like meaning, the erosion of trust can be subtle at first. The tr...

Reinvigorating Self Esteem Post Break Up

The emotional blow brought about by the ending of a relationship, especially one with deep roots, tends to shatter even the strongest foundations of self esteem. People begin to question why it happened, if they are worthy of love and where their true value lies. These questions force the person to stare deep within themselves for the answers. Simple responses like "time heals all wounds" or "there are other fish in the sea" never reach the darker corners causing people to wrestle with themselves in the middle of the night. Fortunately, steps can be taken to repair the damage done to the self esteem because of a break up. Establish Your Value: Following the end of the relationship, someone might find it challenging to see how they matter. The initial step centers around discovering where true value lies. The first pass of this step needs to be done alone. After taking time and fully considering one's value, they can then take their insights to a trusted fri...