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How to Survive When Divorce Is the Only Option?

Divorce damages everything and everyone. Those suffering with the pain of divorce long for a simple pill or program to remove the pain and allow them to continue as though the relational breakdown never occurred. Unfortunately, post divorce's nuclear winter requires diligence to traverse the cold, dangerous waters. Grieving the loss, like those facing the death of a loved one, becomes the first step on the road to recovery. The Small Circle Think of these items as the tiny little changes preparing one for the bigger steps down the road. No one runs a marathon on the initial outing or paints a masterpiece by grabbing a paintbrush for the first time. These are confidence builders. They bolster the changes to come. * Change the House: A fresh coat of paint and organized closets will help reset the basis of one's life while giving confidence through small decisions. * Get a Pair of Running Shoes : Everyone thinks they will never be able to move forward, but getting out of...

Do Women Have Unreasonable Expectations?

When discussions of genders occur, women often receive several unfair allegations leveled at them regarding their expectations within relationships. Makers of entertainment amplify one or more aspects giving stilted views for either comedy or added drama. Sadly, these same creators do not cop to their penchant for exaggeration and occasional character assassination. Let's take a look at the expectation stereotype, a closer version of the truth and the underlying reasons most of these exist. "Guys don't know how to clean anything" Stereotype: Picture a partner with a hand on her hip complaining about the state of a part of the home. Feel free to insert either places where food is prepared, a state of undress occurs or expectations of intimacy rule. Some women take matters into their own hands thinking if they want something clean they have to do it themselves, like someone's mother. Truth: Everyone, regardless of being a woman or a man, feels more comforta...

About Rebound Relationships?

Rebound relationships, by their tone, carry an implication of being unwanted. While understandable in comparison long term or fun flings, the importance of transitional relationships cannot be understated. One needs to be clear as to what they mean including the purpose, pitfalls and pointers surrounding rebound relationships. Purpose of Rebound Relationships Because these forms of attachments typically follow the end of an extensive, established relationship noting their place within one's romantic timeline proves important. This can be challenging for several reasons. Let's look at the positive aspects of rebound relationships. Prevents Relational Jumping: Some individuals find being out of a relationship a painful place. They may need the stability of a partner to help give them an identity. Rebound relationships present themselves as stable plateaus where someone can find out who they are outside of a long pairing. Try New Things: With the reduced pressure inside...

He Dumped Me. Why?

Why Men Dump Women? While the termination of a relationship proves difficult, women who receive no clear indication as to why he ended things may feel a deeper cut. This appears intuitive on the surface and could be resolved with a clear face to face conversation. Unfortunately, things rarely end neatly. Seeing some reasons why men dump women offer a fraction of the peace of mind one originally hoped to secure through their partner. Simple Things Items in this category appear almost trivial. One would think a little clarification might snap things into place. * Friends: Either the friends do not like you or the other way around and he ends up choosing the people he has known longer. * Interests: You both enjoy different things and the gulf appears too vast to cross. * Distance/Traffic: Getting together challenges either time or effort and its early enough to end things without much fall out. * Compatibility: Deeper than shared interests, he hears about family, living arr...