Marriage can be a beautiful thing. When two people come together and publicly declare that they're going to spend their lives together, it will inevitably take people to places that they've never been before. Sometimes, these places are amazing however, in some cases they are not.Love is a strange and mercurial creature, and at times it can take twists and turns that lead to unpleasant thing. Living together can be easier said than done, and our tough economic times can cause stress and anxiety. So it's very easy to have two people, stuck in a tiny apartment, tense beyond words that are slowly driving each other crazy. Over time, they can realize their compatibility wasn't as great as they once thought. At first it starts as just an idea, quickly dismissed, that maybe divorce is an option. Slowly it becomes a suggestion, made by concerned friends. Towards the end, it becomes an insult. Then one day, something happens, and it transforms into inevitability.
It's common in wedding vows to say, “I feel like I'm marrying my best friend”. So what happens when you lose both your best friend and your lover in one shot? Billy Joel touched on this in “Scenes from an Italian Restaurant”. The popularity of the song shows us that this feeling is something many people can relate to and understand.
The first thing is to remember that you are not alone. There are millions of men and women who have asked themselves this question, and millions more will ask it after you. Countless people have all faced this sort of despair, and a vast majority of them figured it out and gotten their lives back. Plenty of them went on to figure out everything they would ever need to, and had live that wouldn't be nearly as robust without the miserable lows.
If this depression continues, considering getting some professional help. While therapy carries stigma to it, chance are you could use an outside perspective at this point. Seeking the advice of a professional therapist is only saying that you don't have all the answers right now, which you admitted to yourself the moment you looked up this article. If you feel like you just can't understand how you're supposed to function without your ex-husband or ex-wife? Chances are this should be where you go next.
Another excellent suggestion is to spend time with other friends. While you and your ex-spouse might have had a close friendship at one point, chances are good that you have other people in your life who care about you. Remind yourself of what your other friendships were like and, in the process, you may end up remembering something about yourself. If possible, specifically seek out people who are your friends from before you were married. This way, you can cut loose and just be yourself without really worrying about what anyone else will think.
Whatever you do, don't get caught in to the mistake of presuming that you just lost your one opportunity for happiness. There are many people who recover from sorrow just like yours, and go onto lead amazing lives. Some marry again, while others choose a life committed only to remaining single. What you do from this point on is your choice. Choose well, remember that tomorrow is a better day, and move on.
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