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# 1. A Caring Man Is a Hot Guy. What do women desire? For those who've ever contemplated this concern, here are 19 relationship tricks. They're based upon the study of healthy, pleased couples and our altering gender roles. Secret No. 1: Ladies appreciate a man with a sensitive side, especially when they're upset. Put your arm around her and hand her a tissue. Supporting is an effective method to connect. # 2. Chivalry Still Belongs. When it comes to love, many women like men to take a conventional manly role. This is particularly real in the wooing stage of a relationship, according to psychologist Diana Kirschner, PhD, who's written several books about love. She's perfectly efficient in pulling out her own chair or opening a door, however if you see her hesitate, she may simply be waiting for you to be the gentleman. # 3. Alway's Dress to Impress. Fashion comes and goes, but a man's attention to his grooming and clothes must be long lasting. It...

When trust has been broken through infidelity, couples struggle to find their way. The betrayer finds hope scarce. However, this does not mean a possibility for a future ends at the point of cheating. One of the most important things when rebuilding trust is it takes time and patience. Proactive steps brings couples closer as they work through the process of rebuilding the trust. Assume Responsibility: This seems to be clear, but often gets ignored. The first step is a clear apology with assumption of the wrong done to the other person. Though the first step, the act will never resolve everything. Things will not move forward productively without an acknowledgement of wrongdoing. The one who committed the act needs to resist explaining, offering excuses or being defensive despite the temptation to do so. Be Consistent: After an act of betrayal, the wronged person doubts everything said and done by the one who broke the relationship. This makes things challenging because it cal...

Returning to an ex brings a variety of responses from close family and friends. They often quickly insert their opinions, even when not been requested. One needs to proceed with caution in dealing with loved ones seeking to share their concerns and be protective. Because of the delicate nature, it become imperative to understand why they act the way they do, how one should absorb their words and actions and then how to move forward. Why they do it? Though hard to believe, family and friends seeking to intervene one's return to an ex have the best of intentions. Their behavior makes witnessing their kindness as with a bit of selfishness. This makes understand their motivations infinitely more important. * Best Interests: Especially post a bad break up, they likely saw the fallout of the ending of the relationship. Factors, major like infidelity or benign like general disrespect, can cause them throw themselves into the breach, even without being asked. Keeping their love in m...

Trust can be the strongest element in a relationship. It is a barrier against the challenges presented by the outside world seeking to destroy a couple. What happens when trust is damaged? Can it be shored up or even reconstructed? The short answer is yes. The longer answer centers around the difficult process requiring honesty, open communication and diligence in forging a trusting bond. One needs to walk the hard path to get back to where they belong. Speaking the Truth: Trust lives in an environment of honesty. Regardless of how good or bad a relationship ended, each person needs to be truthful about everything. Honesty should not be used as a club to bend the other person to the will of the other. The past, present and future depends on being careful and using important keys to build trust. * Accurately Address Things: Couching things or overly editing clouds the message. * Watch How the Message Is Delivered: Tone conveys a great deal when speaking. Being too soft or stern...

People tend to categorize things into binary sides of a page. Doing so means they need to expend less effort in decoding how they feel, understand the impact a decision may have or judge the response of others to their actions. This behavior exists in several areas, not the least of which is emotions. Ask people to come up with lists of good and bad feelings and the common denominators will form. On the bad side of the page, emotions like anger, covetousness and jealousy will likely be in the top three. Understanding each emotion contains a wide range of reasons for its existence. Looking back over time, not every expression of anger proved to be negative. Even jealousy provides positives aspects within a relationship. One needs to be open to the exploration of what they feel to see how jealousy can be channeled in a beneficial direction. Let's see three up sides of jealousy. Jealousy as a Fence: Being attuned to the indications of jealous demonstrates healthy boundaries wit...

Expectations prove tricky. When going to the movies, a glowing review from a friend may hype the story too much leading to a disappointing evening because it did not meet the lofty standards. It might have been better had the friend said nothing at all. The situation grows even more critical when returning to a relationship. Knowing pitfalls and the key areas where they land offers the opportunity to resuscitate expectations offering the greatest chance for success moving forward. Time: With this category, the length of the relationship and level of comfort can set the expectation. Each person should come back in with fresh eyes which can be challenging. The correlation between a long relationship and high expectations will place pressure to return a similar level of togetherness without taking into account the time separated. Dial down the pressure in order to find the right amount of time in each other's company nestled between too much and not enough. Watch for growing pain...

Retrieving an ex when they have started dating almost always proves tricky at best. It is never impossible, but it can be very difficult. Rather than entering into a protracted battle to secure an ex once more, one should take a look at the relationship, determine what would be the best possible outcome and then take steps to make a healthy offer to move forward. Assessing the Past and Present The End: One needs to avoid being clouded by an unrealistic view of a former relationship. This means accurately seeing how things ended and asking challenging questions such as: * Was there infidelity? * How healthy was the relationship to begin with? * If changes could be made, what would they be? * What is going on now causing consideration of a return to the ex? The Present: One cannot view things from a solitary standpoint. Loneliness, solitude and a lack of personal prospects coupled with the happiness of an ex bolsters a sense of hopefulness about getting back into a relationsh...