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Relationship Issues Can Cause A Break Down When Your Expectations Are High

- February 03, 2018

Expectations prove tricky. When going to the movies, a glowing review from a friend may hype the story too much leading to a disappointing evening because it did not meet the lofty standards. It might have been better had the friend said nothing at all. The situation grows even more critical when returning to a relationship. Knowing pitfalls and the key areas where they land offers the opportunity to resuscitate expectations offering the greatest chance for success moving forward. Time: With this category, the length of the relationship and level of comfort can set the expectation. Each person should come back in with fresh eyes which can be challenging. The correlation between a long relationship and high expectations will place pressure to return a similar level of togetherness without taking into account the time separated. Dial down the pressure in order to find the right amount of time in each other's company nestled between too much and not enough. Watch for growing pain...

To Re-kindle or Move On?

- January 28, 2018

Retrieving an ex when they have started dating almost always proves tricky at best. It is never impossible, but it can be very difficult. Rather than entering into a protracted battle to secure an ex once more, one should take a look at the relationship, determine what would be the best possible outcome and then take steps to make a healthy offer to move forward. Assessing the Past and Present The End: One needs to avoid being clouded by an unrealistic view of a former relationship. This means accurately seeing how things ended and asking challenging questions such as: * Was there infidelity? * How healthy was the relationship to begin with? * If changes could be made, what would they be? * What is going on now causing consideration of a return to the ex? The Present: One cannot view things from a solitary standpoint. Loneliness, solitude and a lack of personal prospects coupled with the happiness of an ex bolsters a sense of hopefulness about getting back into a relationsh...

Five Outdoors Date Ideas to Keep Your Relationship On Fire!

- January 22, 2018

When the weather warms, couples seek great ways to spend time together shedding the coziness of the indoors for the bright warmth of the wide world. Several opportunities open up for those with an adventurous spirit, a bit of creativity and a passionate drive. Let's look at some of those options and how they can be tailored to the specific interests of those on the hunt for fun. 1. Active Activity Everyone enjoys replaying the times during the spring, summer and early autumn of their youth spent engaging in some spirited games. As children, the spirit of competition may have been too great. Couples can take a more leisurely approach to getting outside in the sun for some friendly play. * Complete Leisure: There is a block of movement build strictly for enjoyment. Couples can throw a Frisbee or play with no aim to accomplish anything. The light work allows for conversation and laughter. * Competitive Play: Youthful games like miniature golf or horse shoes gives a slight se...

Mending Fences with Apolgies

- January 13, 2018

When facing a longing to reestablish a relationship with an ex, several steps present themselves as avenues into a repaired union. No one way exists to reforge the place in one another's life. The truth is, because each couple lives within their own ecosystem, tried and fast rules never exist in a global fashion. One of the few assurances to beginning the process centers around asking for forgiveness. Taking into account the purpose and benefits of apologizing demonstrates how romance may be rekindled. Purpose of an Apology Asking for forgiveness can serve many roles in the parameters of a healthy relationship. All sorts of wrongs crop up within a multitude of situations. Work, family and romance stirs up mistakes requiring someone to admit these shortcomings and move forward. The hardest part can be the admission of what has been done wrong. People seek to defend themselves in an argument going so far as turning a blind eye to errors of judgement, harsh words and a litany...

Getting Attention from an Ex

- January 07, 2018

Attention, unlike publicity, is not always positive. When seeking to rekindle a relationship with a former partner, one needs to make sure they take the right steps, not rush things or present a view of themselves leading to a negative response. Knowing what not to do can be as important as knowing the correct things to do. Unfortunately, a misstep usually leads to a fiery end of a potential future. Understanding both sides is critical. Negative Attention In the mind, several of these actions sound like the right thing do. They may be what one wants for themselves or sound smaller in scale when thinking of them. One seeking this sort of attention must understand their heads are not where these actions take place. Things blowing up in the world make creating and maintaining a connection infinitely harder. Desperate Contact: An ex receiving multiple phone calls and texts will believe one has not moved forward. Even if exercising more control than one feels, the person doing ...

Royal Treatment Begets Royal Results

- January 02, 2018

While men strive to appear to the outward world as unflinching heroes, their armor falls away exposing them for the creatures they truly are. Most men long to be respected, given space to not let stress consume them and then reflect those same things back upon the one they love. Taking this approach can be challenging as it means placing trust in the eventual outcome. Often the rewards far outweigh the effort. Stepping to Royalty Relationships and moving within them operate within a paradigm giving the impression of ease. As with most things, the nuances of these steps require far more energy than first expected. * Listen to What He Says and Does Not Say: Everyone, even those who turn out to be the most guarded, end up disclosing exactly what they want. Taking note of what is being shared gives a window into the other person's heart. Unfortunately, the window is often opaque requiring occasional questions to make sure things are on the right track. * Time with Other Guys:...

Giving Him What He Needs

- December 24, 2017

Every person requires specific things within their relationships to help them to flourish. Sometimes individuals find knowing or articulating these needs more difficult than imagined. For someone on the outside, it becomes easier to see the valleys requiring the most attention. This clears the way for them to respond accordingly. Men present specific areas where their partner proves able to buoy them into a higher level. Physical Intimacy Men respond in a particular way to physicality. The impression of men always craving sex turns out to be rooted in their response to physical closeness. While proximity does not always lead to sex, it grows harder as couples become closer to extricate one from the other. Caution should be used, especially early on, when walking into this territory because of the confusion generated by too closely tying sex to every single form of contact. What To Do: Start with small touches in areas that are sweet without being overly intimate. The neck, up...

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