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When Your Partner Hides Purchases and Lies About Spending

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Discovering your partner is hiding purchases, lying about spending, or secretly shopping? Learn why financial deception destroys trust, how to confront it, and whether the relationship can recover. ⚠️ Important Relationship Advice Disclaimer: This content is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered professional relationship counseling, therapy, or mental health advice. Relationship dynamics are highly individual and complex, involving unique personal histories, attachment patterns, mental health considerations, and interpersonal dynamics that require personalized professional guidance. The information provided here does not constitute professional counseling or therapy and should not be relied upon as a substitute for qualified mental health care. If you are experiencing relationship distress, mental health challenges, patterns of unhealthy relationships, or emotional difficulties, please consult with a licensed therapist, relationship counselor, ...
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Love Break Up Getting Through A Distressing Situation

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Are you in love? Break up with your boyfriend can be the most devastating thing in your life if you were truly in love. How can you get through this situation? First of all, you need to determine whether the relationship is truly over. There are a number of ways to get an ex boyfriend back. You don’t want to chase him. You want to give him some space, especially in the first days after a break up. So, don’t pester him with calls or texts. Instead, let him call you. If he doesn’t contact you right away, don’t stress about it. Instead, after about a week, call him yourself. But, keep it casual. Don’t go all weepy on him and ask him to get back together. Also, keep it short. Five or ten minutes should suffice. If you are still in love after this amount of time, you need to consider making more fundamental changes. For instance, do you need a makeover? Would a new hairstyle or new clothes attract him back? Do you need to lose a few pounds? Also, consider whether there were asp...
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Surviving A Break Up There Is Hope

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Are you in the process of surviving a break up? It may seem like there is no hope. But, really there is. First of all, you have to decide whether the relationship is really over or whether it’s just a temporary situation. Some people find that their coupledom becomes even stronger after a hiatus. But other times, you know that it is over and you need to go about mourning the relationship. Your ex was probably the person who you were closest to in the whole world. Now, you need to find people and activities to replace him or her. Sometimes you can turn to friends and family members to discuss the situation. If they are sympathetic and allow you to do the talking that you need to do, this is an optimal situation. Unfortunately, most people are consumed with their own situations. They have little patience for dealing with other people’s problems and concerns. While they may listen for the first couple of days, their basic tenet will be “get over it.” If this is the case, you may w...
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Thinking Of Divorce Save Marriage With A Marriage Counselor

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Are you thinking of divorce? Save marriage by seeing a marriage counselor. There are many therapists who say they do marriage counseling, but how do you know which ones are really good? This article will give you a checklist of things to look for in a family therapist. First of all, you want to see what their credentials are. There are three basic classes of counselors. The first is the Ph.D. or Psy.D. level counselor. These people went to graduate school for a minimum of five years and wrote a dissertation. In addition, they performed a minimum of 3000 hours of therapy under the supervision of an experienced psychologist. In order to legally call yourself a “clinical psychologist” the person must have a doctoral level degree. Ph.D.’s are often more academic in nature and tend to do scholarly and forensic work along with therapy. Then there is the M.S.W. This means Master of Social Work. Social Workers are trained to apply social theory to specific situations. They can work ...
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Moving On

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Bernice knew it was time to be moving on. Break up with her boyfriend Earl had just happened. She knew there was no chance of getting back together, so she had to get on with her life. First, Bernice tried talking to her friends about the break up. At first, they were sympathetic. But soon, they became bored with the topic and wanted to talk about their own issues. Bernice became frustrated at their lack of support. Her mom, on the other hand, couldn’t talk about anything but Earl. She thought Bernice was insane to let him get away. It sometimes seemed like her mom had been more in love with Earl than Bernice ever was. After a few weeks, Bernice decided to go to a therapist for five sessions. Over the course of a few weeks, she began to identify the problems which had led to the break up and plan out a strategy for moving on. The first thing she did after the break up was to get rid of all of Earl’s things. Some, like the leather jacket he loved, she gave back. Other things l...
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Getting Over Break Up When Your Heart Is Broken

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Few things are more painful than having your heart broken. Both men and women experience the pain of breaking up. Sometimes you are the one who called it off and other times your ex did, but in either case, there is pain on both sides. And, sometimes the break up happened for good reasons while other times it seemed to go up in a puff of smoke for no reason at all. These can be the most painful of all. If you don’t go about getting over the break up though, there can be some serious consequences. Don’t fall into the trap of lingering over a lost love. The worst trap of all is to start to write a “victim story” that makes you the protagonist in a tale of love gone bad. First of all, you should realize that if you don’t get over your ex, it will be toxic to any future relationship you might have. Second, realize that you can’t run away from it, medicate it, or suppress it. You have to face the pain head on and deal with it. There’s no way out of a broken heart. There’s only a way ...
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Did Your Girlfriend Break Up With You?

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Did your girlfriend break up with you? You are not the first guy to go through this. In fact, girls initiate three quarters of the break ups while guys only dump the girl in one quarter of the situations. Therefore, guys have to deal with being dumped far more often than girls do. Compounding the problem is the impression that men are supposed to deal with their emotions stoically. While women are allowed to dissect every part of their relationship, men are expected to roll with the punches. But this doesn’t mean that men don’t have emotions. They hurt when women dump them. A girlfriend break up is quite painful. First of all, men tend to place more value on stable relationships than women do. While a man might be interested in a fling with a woman who is not his girlfriend, what he really wants is someone who will be there in good times and bad. But, once your girlfriend has dumped you, it’s important to figure out how to pick up the pieces and go on with your life. First of al...
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What Can Save My Marriage - When Everything Seems Hopeless?

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Marriage is considered a sacred institution by most of the world’s religions. It is the foundation of the family, which, in turn, is the foundation for society. So, there is a lot of emphasis on saving a marriage. But that doesn’t mean that marriages today don’t run into trouble. The changing roles of men ad women, financial pressures, and difficulties with children all make it hard to make marriages work. So who do you turn to? Perhaps the best place to look is the institution that values marriage more than any other – the church. While a clinical psychologist or licensed family therapist will take an individualistic approach to marriage counseling, a pastor will focus on making the marriage work in a holistic sense. Over all, this has a better chance of actually saving the marriage. Why is a pastoral counselor better than a secular therapist? A secular therapist’s education focuses almost entirely on treating individual psychopathologies. Even “Marriage and Family” designated co...
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