Are you in love? Break up with your boyfriend can be the most devastating thing in your life if you were truly in love. How can you get through this situation?
First of all, you need to determine whether the relationship is truly over. There are a number of ways to get an ex boyfriend back.
You don’t want to chase him. You want to give him some space, especially in the first days after a break up. So, don’t pester him with calls or texts. Instead, let him call you.
If he doesn’t contact you right away, don’t stress about it. Instead, after about a week, call him yourself. But, keep it casual. Don’t go all weepy on him and ask him to get back together. Also, keep it short. Five or ten minutes should suffice.
If you are still in love after this amount of time, you need to consider making more fundamental changes.
For instance, do you need a makeover? Would a new hairstyle or new clothes attract him back? Do you need to lose a few pounds?
Also, consider whether there were aspects of your personality that drove him away. Were you always nagging him? Did you drop all of your own friends and hang around with him exclusively? You may have been crowding him.
If you have identified areas where you can change, you need to do them. It may take time, but if he is truly in love, break up won’t last.
But, you also have to be prepared to move on. Fortunately, any changes you make to win your ex boyfriend back will also help you attract a new guy. For instance, learning not to nag a man will help you keep any new boyfriend. And, your new more glamorous self will be sure to attract lots of attention.
Use the time between boyfriends to find out what you really want in a man as well. What was it that attracted you to your ex? Did these qualities hold on over time or did they annoy you after a while? Did you go for someone on the basis of looks only to find out that made for a very vain man? Did you like his sarcastic sense of humor only to find out that he turned it on you?
You should also use this time between boyfriends to figure out what you want in yourself. What can you improve – not for the sake of a guy – but to make the quality of your own life better? This may mean getting back in touch with your girlfriends, taking up a class, or going to church again.
Remember, love break up do happen. Sometimes you can get back together and sometimes you can’t. The important thing is to be able to roll with the punches and move on to the newer, better you.
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