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After the Divorce And No Friends

We all know a divorce is a very painful and frustrating process with a lot of pitfalls to overcome. You will find yourself losing quite a bit in your divorce as your spouse seems to take it all, especially in a nasty divorce. They take your money, your house, they even end up taking the kids leaving you with next to nothing. But the worst loss of all is when you lose your friends.

For whatever reason when you get divorced your friends might start avoiding you and cut off ties all together. After the divorce and no friends is exceptionally painful and just makes an already terrible situation even worse. There can be a variety of reasons for why your friends suddenly disappear once you get divorced.

Their marriage could be at risk and seeing you get divorced might scare them. People are afraid to face a harsh reality and would rather ignore it all, as they say, ignorance is bliss. So seeing you get divorced is just a glaring reminder of their own problems and it makes them think about getting divorced.

But by thinking of getting divorced they also think of what happens after a divorce, and that scares them. They are afraid of being alone and without money or even a house. So instead of facing this reality they instead get rid of what is reminding them of this scary possibility, and that would be you.

There is also the stigma associated with getting divorced. While it is not as strong as it use to be, getting divorced is still looked down upon by a lot of people. This can be another reason why your friends suddenly take flight, they might feel you should have stuck it out and made it work somehow.

Regardless of the reason, after the divorce and no friends is a very painful thing to deal with and can leave you bitter and angry. It can make you lose faith in the whole idea of having friends and make you reclusive and withdrawn. While it is perfectly acceptable to take your time to heal up after a divorce, you just have to remember to not stay that way forever.

Living well is the best revenge, so to get them back you want to move on with your life and find your own happiness. While it will be difficult and require determination, you can go out there and make new friends. There is no reason for you to remain alone forever.

So while the betrayal will hurt and just compound the ordeal of the divorce, it is not some impassable wall that will keep you miserable for the rest of time. Ensuring you do not let yourself remain down is the best thing you can do. Pick yourself back up and move on with your life.

After the divorce and no friends is a painful and traumatic experience but it is not the end. It is a chance to branch out and experience new things and meet new people. As long as you do not let it become a permanent problem you will be fine.

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