Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Do You Really Know What An Open Marriage Is? Its NOT What You Think!

Try to wrap your head around this for a moment. You have been dating some one for a while now, your in love and both decide it's time to get married. You have a big wedding, go on your honeymoon, you have kids, the house and even a dog. After a few years or so go by -- you decide you want an open marriage/relationship -- you tell me this; Whats the use of getting married in the first place -- if you wanted to be with some one else. It sounds like you want have your cake and eat it too! 

You may think, like I did, that an open marriage means you are simply open to having sex with other partners. But as we dug deeper into the reality, the desires and the fears that come with the territory -- we realized it is not that simple.

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Friday, June 5, 2015

Check Your Partner's Credentials

Jada Pinkett Smith on Her Marriage: I Trust That Will Is a Man of Integrity - People Magazine

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It seems as though the 'Smith's' have got their communication thing going with keyword being 'Trust'. That's where compatibility comes in -- if you aren't on the same page with your mate or trust them... then how do you expect your marriage to work no matter who you are.

Before getting married check your partner's credentials and make sure they live up to your expectations. We should all take notes from the 'Smith's'.

Monday, May 4, 2015

Amal Alamuddin Clooney Pregnant? George Clooney's spouse expecting A baby To keep Marriage From Impending Divorce?

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Is Amal Alamuddin pregnant with George Clooney's infant?

Rumors flying round claimed that the couple were attempting to have a child for ages in an try to retailer their crumbling and afflicted marriage. George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin have best been married for three short months, however now they have got develop into the goal of lots of divorce or annulment experiences.

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The divorce rumors started when a lot of sources claimed that George Clooney was not a fan of his wife's controlling perspective, which had surfaced after their marriage ceremony in Venice ultimate yr. She forbade him from seeing a few of his shut chums comparable to Angelina Jolie and Cindy Crawford with out her presence.

He has also neglected a couple of different close pals as a result of his domineering better half, the reviews alleged. George Clooney's friends find Amal Alamuddin haughty who reportely talks right down to people, and now they also suppose snubbed with the aid of Clooney.

although, these rumors may be dispelled as Amal Alamuddin has allegedly been spotted with a baby bump.

George Clooney turned into smartly widely used for residing the bachelor tradition. then again, he has in the past cited that he wanted to have kids of his personal when the time became right.

In an interview he carried out with americans journal, George Clooney said his plans of wanting to have children at some point.

"I suppose or not it's the most accountable issue that you can do, to have kids. I think it's the biggest responsibility you are going to have, and it's no longer anything to be taken calmly, I don't have that element in me that says, 'need to do it.' I don't see myself ever having youngsters. but every thing in my existence has changed over periods of time ... and the area does exchange."

meanwhile, according to adequate! magazine, George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin have always wanted to start a family unit.

"They spoke about children before they were even married and decided it changed into what they desired, as long because it might turn up naturally for them. They desired to birth sooner in preference to later," the insider published.

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Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Sharing is Loving, Loving is sharing - Your Hopes, Fears and Dreams

Talking is one way to share thoughts and feelings between partners.  Research has shown that women actually talk more than men,  in fact about three times more in terms of the number of words.

This fact does not excuse men to from not talk.  It is the men who “clam up” and refuse to talk.  There are also cases where men who do more talking   than women, just as there are cases where it is the women who talk a lot  as well as those women who do not wish to talk a lot.  There is actually no clear cut or fool proof way to judge who should do more of the talking or who should do less.  It is primarily not about gender but about the individual themselves.

Communication is a vital part of any relationship.  Openness and honesty is a key ingredient to maintaining a kind of memorable relationship that is mutually loving and emotionally comfortable.

The following are tips and possible activities one can do to get yourself or your partner to talk his/her heart out, and share voluntarily any fears and insecurities that either feels.  Conversation helps partners form a solid bond that will not be easily eroded.

Ask and you shall receive
The best and simplest way to get a person to talk is by asking a question.

Often it is best that partners ask each these questions after hours they have been apart most of the day; after work or after a long business trip, etc.  But do not forget it is also important to ask sincerely looking straight into their eyes.  Ask how he or she is feeling or has he/she experienced something they want to share? Sometimes the partner may not want to talk. Relax, let it be and be patient.  Relationships are nurtured by respecting anothers decision - everything has its own proper time and place.  Do not force it.

Let him or her finish

A very annoying habit some partners have is finishing the other partner’s   sentences.  Though you may have good intentions, when you think you are helping, the fact is – doing so creates the impression that the partner is getting impatient  with the verbally challenged approach to sentence construction.  The partner being corrected could either find this act rude. 

Go with the flow.  Trust your partner’s judgment and verbal prowess.  He or she will thank you for it in the long run.

Stop, look and listen

The most important advice anyone could receive is irrelevant if the one receiving the advice is not listening.  They key to communication is in  listening just as much as it is in the talking.

One partner sometimes gets the other to talk by simply listening intently to what the other is saying.  This gives the impression that what the other is saying is important.  Verbal signals are just as important as non-verbal ones.  Active listening is a good practice any time.  It breaks down barriers and puts down any or all reservations one partner may have.  But do not just  listen, value what the other partner is saying.  All it really takes is an ear and a heart to validate anothers existence.

In summary, fears and insecurities are a part of everyone’s psyche.  All one has to do is to share it in order to lighten any emotional load he or she may be carrying.  But it is also similarly important that the one it is being shared with is listening and genuinely cares what the other is talking about.  Sharing makes everyone human and humane.  And it is a valuable gift that both women and men must cherish.
It is best if the partner asks his/her partner how the day went or how they feel.

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Monday, January 13, 2014

Marriage: Share and Share Some More Until You Succeed

Most wives and husbands ultimately become mothers and  fathers.  These mothers and fathers and their children later turn to become families that form part of America’s ever growing communities.  Studies have shown that children strive to become the best they could possibly be if both parents are present to give support in all aspects of their children’s growth be it financial, psychological or emotional.

There are many possible results if a couple fail to share responsibility, support, decisions and commitment to each other and to their children.  One is the most dreaded but is a highly popular option now-a-days.

The D word

Divorce is not a very kind word.  Every year, there are almost a million children in America who experience their parents go through the messy process of divorce.   According to studies, half of these children will become adults who have grown up in homes raised by a single parent. 

Marriage is a solid institution that conveys the importance of a long-term commitment between two mutually loving adults.  However, this is usually not the case in most current relationships.  But there are those children who overcome such odds and later become positive contributing community members. 

Prevention is always better than the cure

One way to prevent the onset of this dreaded D word is that both parents should work on how each partner will get to share on making important decisions,  from where the child will be schooled, how,  the kind of religion (if any) parents would like their children to practice, type of health care, kinds of activities, etc. 

The decision on what to choose is as important as who makes them and how.  Couples must agree and later on come to a mutually beneficial and positive decision that will ultimately benefit the children.

Oddly however,  the cure after a divorce has happened is also the same thing as the prevention.   Parents should just as well work positively together and share decisions.  The negative impact of the separation must, as much as possible, have minimal effect on how the children conduct themselves in the long term.

When an agreement cannot be reached

Oftentimes, couples who separate cannot come to an agreement as to what and how is the best way to decide on issues involving their children or on their finances, etc.  Usually, both  partners take each other up as adversaries.  Confrontation usually is the result of such a mindset.  Obviously, this further prevents each from cooperating in the best method possible to serve the children’s interest.

Practice responsible parenthood

The only way to make the best out of a relationship is to practice sharing.  Two people who decide to become as one entity will further enhance the value of their union as well as each other if they share house work obligations and responsibilities that they may have  to their children as well as to each other.  With the current statistics reflecting that thirty percent of children born in the United States are from parents that are unmarried,  people who are thinking of embarking in a relationship will do best if they are aware of the obligations that marriage entails. 

Doing so saves the couple as well as their eventual children from the financial, psychological and emotional anxiety / anguish or problems that separation or divorce may bring.

Currently, there are programs geared towards youth and adolescents – the future decision-makers of the country – that teach them to be aware on how and what is their level of maturity and commitment to their partners as well as themselves.  They are also educated on the aspects of marriage and how it is to raise a child.  These programs also evaluate its participants as to how ready or not ready individuals are in committing to such an important decision.

Thankfully, US schools currently have a curriculum that instruct its young students on what are the various aspects of  how it is to be a parent, this covers emotional, legal as well as financial responsibilities.

All in all, a relationship is called as such because two people are in it.  It is also best and just as practical that these two partners work together on their differences and share each other’s emotional high’s, low’s as well as responsibilities that would lend support on the whole relationship.

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Sunday, January 12, 2014

M & M: Money and Marriage

Contrary to popular belief, love of money is not the root of all evil, lack of money is. This issue is a major concern of most married couples today.  Believe it or not, eighty percent of divorces are the result of disagreements over money.  Though money and marriage may not be good topics to talk about together, the fact is -- marriages cannot go on without money; while money, fortunately or unfortunately, can very well exist on its own. 

The following are tips to improve marriage especially when money and finances are involved.
Learn each other’s spending styles

A couple is composed of two individuals with varying likes, dislikes and preferences, with differing financial lifestyles – e.g., one is a big spender while the other is a spendthrift; one is an impulsive buyer while the other likes to think things through; one prefers to deal with money matters now while the other wants to think about it over night.  These differences could cause friction and fights if the disparity is not appropriately resolved. 

It is best if a couple finds positive and creative ways to use each other’s unique styles to serve the interest of the marriage as well as their bank accounts.  Different does not have to mean conflict and a clash of methods in saving and spending.

Differences are varying ways of approaching problems and opportunities to solve these problems and using these opportunities to the best advantage.  

Spend on values

Couples must take the time and effort to get to know the values they would like to prioritize.  Values such as financial stability, companionship, freedom from debt, etc. are a few examples.  Partners should define these values and determine which are most valuable to them. 

Sharing details about each other’s financial capabilities and in-capabilities is essential.

It is important that couples mutually agree on what it is they want to focus on and from there decide how best to serve each other’s emotional wants and financial needs.

Have dates, will discuss

Money matters during dates used to be a no-no.  But now, discussing money issues during dates is a practical and wise decision.  It is a “no-frills” way to maintain honesty and transparency.  Conflicts may or may not be avoided during these discussions. The important thing is that disagreements must not in any way be the dominant factor in your relationship. 

Talk about sharing financial responsibilities.  Decide how much you must spend and on “what, which and how”. This could be a great way to settle differences, if there are any, and could even improve a couple’s relationship, especially after each has found out how open the other would be in handling finances.

Divide and conquer

Partners must distribute financial responsibilities to each other.  Their decisions should be based more on one another’s capabilities, means and interests than on outdated stereotypes based on gender.  A man was to bring “home the bacon” and the woman was to stay in the house to take care of the children. This scenario may or may not work in this day and age unless a couple finds this particular style actually is best for them.  What is important is that a couple’s uniqueness shines through and the financial lifestyle they decide on works best to their family’s advantage.

Share any events, especially financial ones with each other as well as make sure that important decisions are discussed and mutually agreed upon with the best interest of each other in mind.

Plan it then spend it

There are couples who plan what they spend i.e. budget. There are also couples who spend and then plan later.  The former is preferred over the latter.  Although it could feel a bit restraining, the value of planning ahead enables couples to know what they need more than what they want.  Planning also enhances a couple’s creativity as it forces them to think of innovative and often better ways to cover expenses that they have.  Planning also increases the chance of saving and decreases their spending.  This ensures their long-term enjoyment in their financial future.

Money and marriage should not be a source of conflict unless couples make it that.  All it takes is honesty, openness and genuine respect for each other’s capabilities to make money and marriage work.  And if couples wish it so, it will be. 

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Saturday, January 11, 2014

Domestic Work Can Keep Love Alive for couples

A typical housewife's day starts and ends with the same thing:  household chores

A fulltime housewife wakes up early to prepare breakfast and then she makes sure everybody eats well.  When the hubby and the children are off to work and to school, she cleans the house and does the laundry.

A housewife's day is either spent tending her garden or buying groceries.  Then she hurries home and prepares dinner for the family.  Dinner is the time for conversation with the family.  After washing the dishes, the housewife tucks everybody in bed and then she can do things that she enjoys - like reading or needle work.  The next day is spent following the same routine.

A working mother, on the other hand, is not less of a housewife just because she spends the day in the office.  A working mom just needs to plan her day ahead so she can work and at the same time perform all the household chores.

A housewife, fulltime or working, can only do so much before she finds out that she is already at the end of her wits.  A housewife who does all of the household chores will have very little time for her husband or her children.  If she has extra time she is probably too tired to enjoy the extra hours.

There are housewives lucky enough to have husbands who share the household chores.  In marriage, sharing is a manifestation of the couple's commitment to honor and care for each other.  But this is the ideal setting.

In reality, the sharing of domestic chores has become one of the sources of conflict between spouses. Research will show that housewives are mainly responsible for house work.  However, a little help from the other spouse would be a great help.

The arguments most couples have start out with the wife complaining about having so much to do for the family that she no longer has time for herself.  This is usually the phase when the wife is already burned out.   When the husband hears this, he counters by saying he is also too tired and that doing the household chores is not his responsibility

Due consideration should be given to husbands who work and whose wives stay home the whole day.  In this case his earnings are the husband's contribution to the household.  The wife, whose sole contribution to the family is her house work, should do her part and not complain.

The present economic situation however has forced both husband and wife to work and contribute to the family income.  In this situation, both spouses are expected to share in the household chores.

Most husbands complain that their wives no longer have time for them.  Many housewives are so busy with their daily mundane tasks that they forget how to have a good time.

Surveys show that sharing in the household work can be less stressful and depressing for both spouses.  When the household chores are divided, there is more time for the spouses to enjoy each other's company.

Among the most common household chores include buying groceries, disposing of garbage, meal preparation, care of the children and laundry.  Husbands who want to ease their housewives' burden can choose a task they are most comfortable with. 

An offer to help with the household chore will not only brighten the other spouse's day, but in return, she will be extra nice and caring, not only to the husband, but also to the children.

Reasons why men are hesitant to do household chores:

1. Cultural influence-Most cultures tend to be patriarchal where men play the dominant role.  Because of this, men look at household chores as something below them are relegated only to women.

2. Gender-bias-The way children are raised is responsible for how they turn out as adults and how they look at their role in society.   There are men who were raised with the traditional idea that a man's role is to earn money for the family and a woman's role is to take care of the household.

Women can encourage their spouses to share in the household work by talking to them about how heavy the workload is and that any help would be appreciated.  It would also help if women would specify the exact task she wants assistance with so that the men will not be left guessing,

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