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Can We Afford Kids? How to Have the Money Talk Before Starting a Family

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Wondering if you can afford to have kids? Learn the real costs of raising children, how to have the financial conversation with your partner, and how to plan for parenthood without going broke. ⚠️ Important Relationship Advice Disclaimer: This content is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered professional relationship counseling, therapy, or mental health advice. Relationship dynamics are highly individual and complex, involving unique personal histories, attachment patterns, mental health considerations, and interpersonal dynamics that require personalized professional guidance. The information provided here does not constitute professional counseling or therapy and should not be relied upon as a substitute for qualified mental health care. If you are experiencing relationship distress, mental health challenges, patterns of unhealthy relationships, or emotional difficulties, please consult with a licensed therapist, relationship counselor, or m...
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Getting Back Together After A Long Time - Can It Work

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So you are thinking of getting back together after a long time apart. Can it work? Well that depends really on how much you both want it to and what caused the breakup in the first place. You are more likely to succeed if you have the backing of your friends and family. Often we break up when we are young, as we are both immature and just don't know what we have, until we lose it.  Other times we can kill off a relationship, because we relocated with our jobs or our families. Often the break up has nothing to do with the people involved just the timing or distance is wrong. But sometimes there were specific reasons why we broke up and if these reasons still exist, then you need to work out why you want to get back together . Absence can make the heart grow fonder but be aware that memories get distorted and you could be remembering events that didn't quite happen that way. Experts call this the "rose coloured glasses" effect. However, if you are thinking of ...
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Where Can I Find Help For A Troubled Relationship

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If you and your partner are still speaking, why not make a date together at your favorite restaurant. A public place is great for a chat about your feelings as you are more likely to keep your temper under control. You cannot let your cozy chat descend into a shouting match or you will disturb the other diners. Sometimes a little work and some private chats are all that is needed to sort out the troubles in a relationship . Life gets so busy that it is easy to lose track of our loved ones and to end up ignoring them or causing them to feel neglected. A few "couple only nights" may be all you both need to get back on track. If you cannot talk alone, why not ask a trusted friend or family member to act as mediator. This can be a difficult step to take and not one that you should enter into lightly. You must pick someone who has the ability to act impartially. This is not the time for any third party to be taking sides. What you are looking for is someone who can help you ...
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Is Writing Letters To Get Your Ex Back Really A Good Idea?

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Here is a question that people have all the time.  Is writing letters to get your ex back really a good idea?  There are many people that write letters, text messages, e-mails and just about every other form of text-based correspondence that you can think of on a daily basis.  Many of these people will resort to that form of communication when trying to get an ex-lover to fall in love with them again. In order to truly comment on how effective this method is, we need to examine both the good points and the bad points about it.  The good to writing letters is that they will allow you to express feelings that you might not otherwise be able to express.  There are plenty of people that can say more in text than they’d ever be able to say verbally.  So if letters are helping you with the communication process, they can definitely be a good thing. On the other hand, letters are also quite impersonal.  People that are broken up with over the phone, ove...
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Break Up To Make Up - Can It Hold Up?

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If your considering getting back together with your ex. Think about this, what made you do what you did, will give you a better understanding why you left in the first place: Break Up to Make Up - Can It Hold Up?  The break up may be just the first stage in getting back together with an ex. If you had been dating for any length of time, you and your ex had a lot invested in the relationship.  You obviously loved and cared for each other.  But something went wrong and one of you decided to call it quits.  How you handle the relationship break up may have a lot to do with whether you can ever make up. If you are the one initiating the break up , try to do it with love and compassion.  Whether you are truly calling it quits or just wanting a time out, remember that this is a person who has been important to you and you have a responsibility to take his or her feelings into account. It’s generally best to tell the person that you want to break up in a pub...
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6 Ways to Save a Marriage from Divorce - Embrace Conflict

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In many states, all a husband or wife has to do to end the relationship is state to the court that there are “irreconcilable differences” and the court will grant the divorce .  But, in any marriage, there should be irreconcilable differences.  The best way to save marriage is to embrace the conflict that is inherent in a close partnership between two people. We often think of divorcing couples as the ones who screamed at each other all of the time.  But if these couples can communicate their needs through elevated voices, they are actually doing better than the couple that avoids all conflict at the cost of expressing their needs and beliefs. It is these silent couples who need to save marriage through embracing conflict. While no one is suggesting that emotional and verbal abuse is a good thing for a relationship, couples who don’t acknowledge that there are problems and differences are actually more likely to split up according to Dr. John Gottman, a researche...
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When Your Relationship is In Trouble - Consider Counseling To Help Save Marriage

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If your relationship is in trouble, you might want to consider counseling to help save marriage.  Your marriage is the central point in your life.  All of your other relationships – with children, with family, and with friends – revolve around the marriage axis.  Therefore, there is a need to help save marriage. How do you know if marriage counseling is right for you?  If you have any of these problems, you might want to consider counseling to help save your marriage: Infidelity Communication Conflict Work - Life Balance Problems with Children Outside Family Issues Family Violence Substance Abuse A family counselor or therapist will be able to help you to enhance your family relationship by helping you to explore effective communication techniques, conflict resolution solutions, and other kinds of “coping skills” that will make your family work better.  A therapist can also help you work on resolving deep issues that have carried over from chi...
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How To Save Your Marriage - When All Hope is Lost

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Do you wonder “ how to save my marriage ?”  This article tells you how to save your marriage . First, you need to identify the trouble in your relationship.  Some common troubles include: Money concerns Child rearing difficulties Lack of sex Lack of communication Loss of identity And, of course, there are many others.  You may discover that there is one main problem or you may identify several smaller problems that are eating away at your marriage.  When you identify the problem or problems that are at the root of your marriage troubles, you will be able to move on to the next step which is close, personal interaction. In this step, you will need to be open to extensive conversation.  If you have not had a lot of open communication during your marriage , you may want to consider counseling in order to facilitate the personal interaction that is key to this step.  If you really want to save your marriage , you will set aside time to work...
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