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Is Love Like in the Movies?

Movies make love seem little more than mad capped make believe. After watching a variety of films, individuals start to long for the way things exist on the big screen. Such desires are natural and may stir a central question for everyone searching for true love. Can love ever be like it is in the movies? Understanding key breakdowns of relationships and movies point to the answer, so let's see how the pieces fit together.

Recognizing Fiction and Reality

Hardcore skeptics will point an icy finger toward the mantra espoused by countless parents after their kids see a particularly rambunctious movie leading them karate chop their younger sibling or string a zip line from the tree house. "Don't you know the difference between a movie and real life?" While most of us distinguish between the two, movies and love share a key item. They both tap into a well spring of emotion deep within us all. So looking at relationships outside the romantic comedy can demonstrate the pitfall of relying on Hollywood for relational advice.

Sports Movies: Countless movies in this genre position the relationship as either background support or an obstacle to success. No one wants to be an extra in someone else's story.

Action Adventure: Taken by the villain, left behind to hope for the hero's safe return or some relational prize to be won at the adventure's end. These roles could be fulfilled by a well carved statue rather than a real person.

Wacky Comedies: The partner, often the stable and reasonable person, suffers the consequences of bad behavior, poor decisions and general thoughtlessness. In the end, the prospect of becoming an emotional punching bag is no one's idea of true love.

Things Needed to Pull Off Movie Love

Talk to anyone in the film industry and they will inform you how much is needed to create successful movies. If one wants movie love, these elements become critical to first form and then sustain such love. Seeing how much must go right gives a clearer picture of the challenge facing anyone wanting love like in the movies.

* The Script: A sharp story after several drafts means sticking things out when everything must be rolled back to the start.

* Sound Track: Music makes everything better and requires an available sound engineer with a dramatic swell when you need it.

* The Cast: Actors willing to perform for a director with a singular vision.

* Suspension of Disbelief: This is the hardest because you are often the one trying craft the story.

Each part possesses the potential to puncture the thin veil keeping reality at bay. Also, one requires their partner to buy into their story while surrendering aspects of their own desires. Would it really be love if one of the people have no choice in it?

It Does Happen, Sorta

Moments occur in life when things take a surreal turn. Everything might come together. A sense of being watched when going about everyday task. Maybe a particularly athletic move causes the idea of doing a stunt crosses one's mind. These kismet moments happen in relationships too. But what does one need to remember?

Like in real life, the characters do not know what is going to happen next even though a story has been written. The way a story unfolds in the movie makes the path appear clear and inevitable. Life is never so neat. Multiple decisions can send those in love spiraling far away from their desired path.

Romance in movies give the illusion of effortlessness. During the big scene, a variety of people established the set, props and countless other conditions so the shower of rose petals or fake snow comes right on schedule. Real gestures of love often fall to one person. The reward comes from the time, planning and effort applied for the love of a single person.

Stories continue after the credits roll even if they are not seen. Movies, like all stories, have a planned ending. Ask anyone if they want love to end following a finite period and they will likely say no. Almost everyone experiencing true love begs for one more day, one more hour and even one more minute with the one they are with because they never want their story to end.

Movies, though fun escapism, are unable to capture the complexities of true love. Love expands to fit the vastness of one's heart and how they combine with another person. While love in movies seems easy, it is like the candy shell keeping all the good, messy stuff hidden. Be careful not to minimize love to only the manageable parts. Embrace the varied shades of love and enjoy it all.




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