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Five Things That's Making Him Pull Away?

Several things cause people to respond in certain ways within relationships. Couples rarely celebrate or even acknowledge the things drawing them toward one another. Only after a couple's implosion does one start looking at situations leading to one of them from leaving. Understanding how general things make individuals sacrifice the relationship may clarify what went wrong where.

1. Outside Forces

Any number of things beyond the scope of the relationship may cause him to end things. Seeing these items clearly sometimes point to what truly matters to him.

Work: Many couples are sacrificed on the alter of the corporate climb. He might feel more of his identity aligns with his occupation rather than his relational commitments.

Hobbies: A wide variety of interests including sports, gambling, adrenaline based challenges or video gaming drives a wedge between otherwise healthy people. While easy to assume a level of immaturity, a man of any age may find himself drawn to something feeding a sense of danger or vitality.

Another Relationship: The ultimate in outside forces ends relationships. Below this single category, many problems crop up eating away at the foundation of a relationship.

2. Uncertainty about His Own Desires

He may pull away when faced with needing to answer honestly about what he wants. A man in relationship finds putting into words the breadth and scope of his feeling difficult. He might fear saying the wrong thing, so he opts for saying nothing at all.

3. Misreading Signals

A man in a relationship will pull away due to a simple misunderstanding about what is being said or implied. Depending on relational history, he can attribute a wide range of things to incorrect meanings. He can chose stepping aside rather than fighting for a relationship believing it is what his partner wants.

4. Feeling Pressured

This reason gets attributed to numerous men. Despite the commonality of the scenario, it does not invalidate the cause of them pulling away. An important thing to remember is the sense of pressure, real or perceived, triggers a response that likely would have occurred for other reasons. One should be careful not to absorb too much blame. His sense of the situation tends to be hypersensitive.

5. Poor Relational Examples

As a reason, this collection falls into two major categories. Understanding both, in light of similar outcomes, grants peace for one's role in their partner's choice. Let's review the areas individually.

Modeled Relationships: Seeing the relationship of their parents and close family members provides a template for his relational patterns moving forward. Someone from a broken home can doubt if their relationships will last. Even those from a stable home with parents who are still together may feel intense pressure to live up to the example they saw. In both scenarios, they end the relationship before disappointing themselves and their partner.

Relational Experiences: Every relationship builds on the next. Following a string of unhealthy relationships, he might believe no relationship is designed to survive. He fails to accurately see the health of the existing relationship. The man also may end things to fulfill the well established pattern.

In all situations, one must take responsibility for their role in the relationship while acknowledging their partner makes decisions for a variety of reasons. Some of the reasons line up in logical pattern. Some reasons are excuses to not be hurt. His pulling away is never a solitary indictment on the relationship or you. Take care not to be harmed by others decisions. It is the only way to stay whole and move forward.




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