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Seeing What Says He's Leaving

Everyone wants a heads up when a relationship reaches the point where their partner plans to terminate things. The sense of foreboding coupled with the possibility of loss causes everyone to jump at shadows. What would it feel like to have insight beyond the sinking sensation when a partner begins acting different? In general, the signs are there. They need to be spotted early, so the things do not end in a swirl of frustration and pain.

Sign One: No Planning, Only Postponing

Couples look toward the future. They may do so in small ways or for short periods of time. A clear indication of things heading in a wrong direction occurs when the forward momentum stops. Let's see how these factors manifest.

Lack of Foresight: When all talk of what is coming next ends, a relationship cease to grow. Couples have vast areas to explore and plan for. They can talk about living situations, the growth of family or even the state of their heart. If a partner has nothing to add within the countless avenues, they may have already decided they see no future beyond the now.

Pulling the Reins: The flip side of lack of planning can be seen in putting off future decisions. This can be done in a variety of clever ways. They may change the subject, look for reasons not tackle even pleasant things or pretend they are unavailable. One of the craftiest ways they may be demonstrating how they have checked out is by implying the person wanting a future is placing too much pressure on them.

Sign Two: Different Pages in Different Books

Strong relationships typically possess a good mix of shared and diverse interests. Being in lockstep in every area is not healthy because it does not allow for individual identity and room for personal growth. However, problems arise when the number of matching interests drop without being replaced or long held commonalities dry up like a neglected houseplant. Paying attention to small things like dropping leaves can be an early sign things are turning in the wrong direction.

Sign Three: Too Great a Distance in All Forms

Growing apart can be tricky to spot at first. Most partners attempt to guard against smothering someone. Even though squeezing too tight can be a risk, it is important to see how a growing gap demonstrates how an end may be emanate.

Physical: Being away for long periods of time and going to great lengths to be far away may indicate a separation of the heart.

Intellectual: Changes in once shared opinions or intellectual truths illustrate fractures of a once tight bond.

Emotional: The most painful of the three usually arise in dismissive things said, cold tones and stony silence leaving the remaining person to wonder if they have done something wrong.

These are three broad areas. As with any far reaching system, a healthy relationship will be thriving on multiple levels including the underlying roots. Communication proves a prime barometer of the status of a couple's future. One needs to stay alert as he will always let you know his intentions with what he says, does and shares. Or maybe the things he fails to say, do or share.

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