Have you been married for a while now and things seem to be spiraling
into a whirlwind of different schedules for all family members? Do you
find little time for romance, routines daily that seem to be robotic
like, schedules to keep, commitments to others that take time from the
family dynamics? Do you feel you and your husband need to rekindle the
bonds that brought you together in the first place?
The first thing to do is consider all the distractions of daily
life. With children, time commitments can be significant and can be all
encompassing. There are car pools, school meetings, sports, birthday
parties, homework, shopping trips, and it seems never ending sometimes.
These things all help a child to develop social skills and are very
important; however, so is your time alone with your spouse and you must
try to find a balance.
Maybe you can figure a way to lighten the burden on both of you with
regards to all the children's activities by involving others, such as
grandparents or aunts and uncles, to take on some of the picking up and
dropping off chores. Most grandparents would love to have more time with
their grandkids and would find the drive time a good opportunity to
communicate more with the kids. What seems like a chore to you could be
very enjoyable for the grandparents. Today kids are so busy that they
often have little time to spend hours with grandparents so these
encounters can be a special time. Maybe you can have a party away from
your home at a pizza place or at a sporting event so you do not have to
spend hours cleaning and preparing foods, etc. There are bird spotting
tours and leaf identification tours that are lead by a Park Ranger which
kids will love and will teach them the joys of being outside and
nature. The time they are on the supervised hike can be a good time for
you and your husband to take a short walk together and discuss some
important issues or just relax and spend the time together.
The idea is to look at the week activities and see what time you can
carve out for you and your husband alone. To have that time to speak
to your spouse uninterrupted and to show care and concern are vital to a
good marriage. It will make the time you do spend with the children
much more productive for them and you as well.
A child senses when the parents are in synch in their marriage. The
old saying, "The best gift you can give a child is happy parents" holds
true in this modern day and age when everyone is so rushed and so intent
on doing everything quickly. Take some time to preserve your love and
concern for your husband or wife and it will pay off in happier children
and more loving and nurturing for the family as a whole.
Plan your life and do not just let the world set up all the
pressures that need to be met. Make your own goals for your family,
your marriage, and your peace of mind.
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