Getting married is a commitment and should be treated as such. More people give longer thought to taking out a joint mortgage than to getting married. This could be due to the fact that divorce is relatively inexpensive, unless you have a complicated estate or are very wealthy, and it is also socially acceptable in most circles. The fact that celebrities marry and divorce at will certainly doesn't help.
The sad fact is though that most people do not walk away from a broken marriage without incurring pain and scarring. It is difficult to see all your dreams of happiness with another person die. And it is worse when you remember that a significant number of people who divorce, regret it. They don't regret getting married, they regret getting divorced!
So what can you do to prevent landing in a similar situation? The first step is to be realistic in your expectations. While it is fantastic to have your husband or wife as your best friend, they cannot supply you with everything you need. You have to be a happy individual in your own right or you will make both of you miserable. You need to be independent even though you are part of a couple. You need to show your partner love, respect and loyalty while still giving them and expecting them to give you the freedom to have a life of your own. Your partner should know that they can go out with their friends and have a good time without getting the third degree on their return. Your relationship will be much more successful if everyone involved has room to develop and breathe. And if you do have kids be careful to still make your relationship a priority as one day they will grow up and leave home and you don't want to be left with a stranger for company.
You need to do things as a couple and spend quality time together. Nurture your love and show appreciation for each other. Surprise your partner with a small romantic gesture every now and then and not just on the obvious occasions like their birthday, Valentines day or your wedding anniversary. Ask TW-"Dub" Jackson he will give you more ideas on how to prevent your marriage or relationship from joining the depressing list of the divorce statistics. So stop worrying about marriage requirements and concentrate instead of being sure that you two are made to last the distance.
Who ever said marriage isn't rocket science was a fool. Marriage takes effort, time, growth, respect, patients and directed communication from both partners...get it wrong, that's when the problems start.
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