Now here is some good news, it's really not difficult to develop the knowledge to stop being a wallflower and so shy that men don't pay any attention to you. The fact is once you have acquired the basic skills, you will realize how simple it is. A little motivation and a few ideas should be able put you on the right track.
Now before we get into this discussion in full, please understand I'm not trying to beat you down nor the men that have ignored you. Because there is a good chance you both have to shoulder a little of the blame. You because you haven't taken the time nor the interest to develop your skills and the men because they don't take the time to see you for who you really are.
Your close friends and family really know you are a caring and giving person, underneath your shyness. However, unfortunately many men only go by the first impression, and they often times interpret shyness as you being cold and unapproachable. But with practice you can quickly work around this problem.
Let's take a look at a few things you may need to think about.
Body language:
When meeting or talking with someone do you stand with your arms crossed in front of your chest? If you do chances are you are conveying an "unapproachable" attitude. In other words, 'don't invade my space and I have no interest in you' type of thing. Wow! That is a big turnoff to anyone, much less the man you are interested in.
What you should do when meeting someone is have your arms and hands down by your side or at least if you have them crossed do so below your waist. This indicates to the man or anyone, you are open and interested in them. Making a conscience decision to do this in all conversations and you will soon develop the habit of doing so unconsciously.
Eye contact:
It's well known that most shy people have difficulty in having direct eye contact. A great many men have been taught from when they were young boys, that you should maintain eye contact during conversations. Consequently, if you don't maintain eye contact, they feel you are ignoring them and have little if any interest in them at all. Therefore make a conscience decision to maintain eye contact as much as possible.
Keep doing this until it becomes an unconscious habit for you. Once you have reached the habit stage, it will be a major stepping stone to you being seen as open an approachable.
Smile:
Did you know a sincere smile, that not only shows on your lips, but travels to your eyes, will light up your whole face and body. It's true! When a person is smiling they convey a sense of confidence, trust and openness. And men love a beautiful smile. It always causes them to take a second look.
As you can see, with a little practice, you really can develop the necessary skills to get a boyfriend quickly. Not only will you get the man of your dreams, you will be able to keep him.
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