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Ex Girlfriend Wants To Get Back Together- What Should I do?


It's a classic and tragic story.  Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy just wants girl back.  It's so common that you could place an ad in the local paper: "ex girlfriend wanting to get back, please help."

Even though it happens everyday that doesn't make it any easier when it's you that's going through it. It is still painful and it still sucks.

You don't need to give up though.  There are a few things you can do that will make things easier, make you a better man and maybe help you get your ex girlfriend back too.

1) The first thing you want to do is cease and desist all calls, texts, emails, etc.  It will be one of the hardest things you've ever done but you have to stop chasing her.  Think about it for a minute.  When someone is chased what do they do?  That's right, they run.  You don't want to push her further away from you.  Back off and give her some space.

Remember, no one likes a weak, whiny, insecure person.  That's just not a turn on. Your ex is no different.  Don't cling or you will only push her further away.

2) Have fun.  I know that this sounds like ridiculous advice, but it's important.  It kind of relates to step 1.  Go out with friends and try to live everyday to the fullest.  If you can do this you will benefit in a couple of ways.

For one thing she will hear about all the fun you're having and she will start to miss the fun the two of you used to have.  She will also remember why she fell in love with you in the first place.

It will also help you to keep your mind off of your ex for a little while.  That is a good way to keep from going crazy during this difficult time.

A word of caution though: don't use this step as a pathetic and childish attempt to make her jealous.  That is very immature and doesn't work.  If  you really care about your ex and you want her back you should avoid stupid, destructive and childish games.  No good relationship can ever be built on those traits.

3) Try to communicate with her.  Don't argue, or badger.  Just talk...and listen.  This isn't about being right, it's about trying to truly understand where the other person is coming from.  This is a time to put your ego on hold.

If you feel like you should place an ad in your local paper that says: "ex girlfriend wants to get back together" than you are pretty serious about getting  your ex back.  Follow the simple tips I've listed here and you have a much better shot at making that happen.  And you can save the money on the ad!

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