Skip to main content

Saving A Relationship - Stepping Stones - Keeping It Alive

What are the best steps to take for saving a relationship?  It just depends on what the problems are and how hard both of you are willing to work to make things better. There are no easy answers and no quick fixes.

One of the first things you need to ask yourself, and one of the hardest things to answer honestly, is whether or not your partner really wants to be in this relationship (or at least wants to be in it badly enough to be willing to make some changes).

That may sound odd, but a lot of relationship problems start because of unrealistic expectations. It's very common that both people in the relationship won't be on the same page. One person will actually care a whole lot more about keeping things together than the other partner.

As long as the one who cares the most is willing to turn a blind eye to the indifference of their partner and carry more than their fair share of the weight in a relationship, things might go along pretty smoothly.

But sooner or later the one who is doing all the work will start to make demands on their partner and resent the lack of help they are getting.

In a lot of cases this is the point where the relationship really starts to suffer (not that it was really healthy to begin with but if one partner is getting their own way all the time at least they are happy and don't tend to rock the boat as much).

It's very important to honestly assess whether or not this is the scenario in your relationship. If it is, you might be better off just leaving and finding a true partner, otherwise you will be having to do all the work and that will get old eventually.

If you and your partner are both grown ups and able to communicate and are both willing to carry your fair share of the weight in the relationship, than you have a chance at making things work out. This is what it will take to save your relationship.

One person can not do it all on their own, it takes a partnership. Even with a partnership you may still want to find someone to help you both learn how to establish a different, and better, dynamic in your relationship.

You can opt to go to a counselor, you can find a lot of self help information online and offline, or you can just sort it out yourselves. It's up to you but as long as you are both willing to put in the time and work you can make your relationship the type that you really want.

Whenever you have two people in a relationship who are really willing to try to make changes and work together to make things better, you will almost always find that saving a relationship is possible and even likely. This is the secret: both of you have to want it and be willing to work for it.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Wife Abandonment Syndrome | When Thе husband Says He's Leaving You

Ten Hallmarks оf Wife Abandonment Syndrome 1. Prior tо thе separation, thе husband hаd ѕееmеd tо bе аn attentive, engaged spouse, looked uроn bу hіѕ wife аѕ honest аnd trustworthy. 2. Thе husband hаd nеvеr іndісаtеd thаt hе wаѕ unhappy іn thе marriage оr thinking оf leaving, аnd thе wife believed hеrѕеlf tо bе іn а secure relationship. 3. Bу thе time hе reveals hіѕ feelings tо hіѕ wife, thе еnd оf thе marriage іѕ аlrеаdу а fait accompli аnd thе husband moves оut quickly. 4. Thе husband typically blurts оut thе news thаt thе marriage іѕ оvеr "out-of-the-blue" іn thе middle оf а mundane domestic conversation. 5. Reasons gіvеn fоr hіѕ decision аrе nonsensical, exaggerated, trivial оr fraudulent. 6. Thе husband











Figure оut whаt hіѕ wife isn't dоіng right. Men nееd tо feel masculine. Mоѕt lіkеlу thе wife hаѕ emasculated hіm оvеr time, аnd thеrеfоrе hе іѕ nо longer attracted tо her. Thеrе аrе а lot оf articles аnd books оn whаt thіѕ means. Dо уоur homework tо find оut hоw tо mа…

Sharing is Loving, Loving is sharing - Your Hopes, Fears and Dreams

Talking is one way to share thoughts and feelings between partners.  Research has shown that women actually talk more than men,  in fact about three times more in terms of the number of words.

This fact does not excuse men to from not talk.  It is the men who “clam up” and refuse to talk.  There are also cases where men who do more talking   than women, just as there are cases where it is the women who talk a lot  as well as those women who do not wish to talk a lot.  There is actually no clear cut or fool proof way to judge who should do more of the talking or who should do less.  It is primarily not about gender but about the individual themselves.

Communication is a vital part of any relationship.  Openness and honesty is a key ingredient to maintaining a kind of memorable relationship that is mutually loving and emotionally comfortable.

The following are tips and possible activities one can do to get yourself or your partner to talk his/her heart out, and share voluntarily any fear…

Three Areas Pointing to the End of a Relationship

Every couple longs for eternity. Unfortunately, forever challenges all couples regardless of how they started, what they have survived and the best of intentions. Being able to spot when things are coming off the rails in a relationship will allow everyone to assess what needs to be done to salvage it and if they wish to invest the time.

Area One: Communication

Communication is held up as the best barometer for telling the status of a relationship. Part of this stems from how pervasive an aspect of the whole relationship communication turns out to be. So how can a couple tell if trouble is brewing in the arena of communication?

All Is Quiet: Long, uncomfortable silences charged with tension define the time spent together. This may occur because one of the pair feels no desire to expend the energy to engage in healthy communication.

Swimming in the Shallow End: When discussions happen, the topics remain light or non threatening. Short and unemotional answers replace detailed explanations …