Jul 7, 2018

For Men: The 6 Deadliest “Conversation Mistakes” You Make With Women

“The 6 Most Deadly Conversation Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women” And What To Do About It…”

Here are the top five ways men murder their conversations with women before they ever even have a chance to create attraction.

Let’s face it…

If you want to create attraction in a woman… you must possess the ability to talk.

You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation… YOU GET NO WHERE….  (Don’t worry, we’ll discuss some of those “secret attraction building techniques later below).

Right now I want to concentrate on the exact ways you’re killing your conversations… probably without realizing it.

Mistake #1:  Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation

Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?

This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation.

A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.”

The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.”

Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly.  And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.”

Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit.

How do you do that?

Keep talking!
Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.

By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.”

In future lessons I’m going to show you exactly what tools you need to be able to do this… but for now, just know you HAVE to be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations….

Mistake #2: Not Recognizing the Signals a Woman is Giving Them

You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity – the right energy – and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation.

How do you do that?

Well, you use your senses. Your eyes and your ears are your best friends. You have got to watch people’s reactions and learn to be able to read them.

You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. You just have to make sure you pay attention.

The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in.

If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.

Mistake #3:  Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning

For the longest time I could never understand why it took so long for me to develop rapport with women… while my friends seem to jump right into it…

And then it hit me…

I was waiting for rapport to happen naturally… they were assuming it.

When you are talking to a woman, even if it’s your first time talking to her… talk to her in the same laid back way you would talk to an old friend.

Most guys do the complete opposite… they talk to a woman in a “stiff, formal” way reserved for strangers…. And this just makes it more apparent that you are a STRANGER.  And this puts her guard up.  And this creates that uncomfortable “awkwardness” that is devastating to a conversation.

By jumping right into rapport you create a more natural feeling conversation and give her the feeling of “knowing you forever.”

Mistake #4:  Going into “Interview Mode”

I know you’ve experienced it… talking to a woman, and feeling like you’re on a job interview.

This is the dreaded “interview mode.”

This happens when you don’t know what to talk about so to keep the conversation going you ask questions like:

What do you do for a living?
What do you do for fun?
Where did you grow up?
What kind of music do you like?

It’s not the questions themselves that kill you… the rapid firing of question after question… and the steady stream of fact based answers that destroy any sort of “chemistry.”

A conversation is supposed to be fun vibing back and forth… it’s not supposed to feel like a job interview.

Mistake #5:  Letting her “Lead” the Conversation

Most guys are so unsure of themselves when talking to a woman that they look for the woman to give them “approval” or “permission” before they take any lead in the conversation.

And this is DEAD wrong.

The minute a woman realizes you’re looking to her to lead the conversation… her attraction instantly disappears.

Most guys let the woman lead the conversation because they are scared of “pissing her off” or choosing the wrong topic…

But here is the thing…

Women will follow whatever tone you set for the conversation.  If you set a fun, flirty vibe… she will follow.

And even if she isn’t interested in the topic you’ve chose to discuss… she’ll still respect you a lot more for taking the initiative.

The Biggest Mistake:

Do you want to know what the biggest mistake men make in regards to their conversations with women?

Not getting help.

Would you believe that 10 years ago it was nearly impossible to find this sort of information on improving your conversations with women?  This meant that guys were forced to either struggle forever, or figure it out on their own.

However, you have no excuse… as there is help available.  Help that can change your “game” almost overnight.

Even though it has been close to five years since I last struggled with this… I still know the pain you feel… I had felt it for more than two thirds of my life.  And I don’t wish that pain on anyone.

Now, I know that anytime, anywhere I can go out and talk to women and create attraction.

This is what fueled to me to create a program about this.  I asked 5 of the guys I know who are the absolute best at talking to women… to join me on this program to help create that change in you – a lot quicker than it took me.

It’s jam packed with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for creating the right mindset for talking to a woman, getting “in the zone”, making her laugh, creating rapport, keeping a conversation flowing naturally, overcoming “shit tests”, dealing with guys who might be overshadowing you, and most importantly, creating attraction as you talk to her…

This is arguably the most comprehensive “conversation training” you will ever receive.  There is no way you can listen to this program and not come away with at least a dozen tips that will change the way you communicate with women …nearly immediately.

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Jul 6, 2018

He Doesn’t Really Want the Perfect Woman | He Wants These 3 Things from You Instead?

How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want?

If you’re like most women, it’s a LOT. You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive.

All this time presenting yourself as fun, interesting, worldly, and not needy in the slightest. You spend all this time showing him just how good you’d be for him… How amazing his future would be if he chose you as the woman by his side…

And it doesn’t work. It never works. WHY? Why do you work so hard… And the guy in your life just takes you for granted, if he even notices you at all? It’s probably because he’s immature, right? He can’t recognize a good thing until it’s gone. Or maybe… It’s because you’ve been doing all the work for him.

-If He Doesn’t Work for Your Relationship, He Won’t Value It-


What men value most are those things they have to work hard to get. 

Hand a man a college diploma, and he won’t value it as much as if he’d had to put in years of study and effort to earn it.

Hand a man the perfect girlfriend, and he won’t value her as much as if he’d had to woo her for weeks just to get her to go out with him. This is why playing hard to get works.

But, as you’ve probably already noticed…

There’s a BIG problem with playing hard to get. That strategy stops working once he’s actually got you.

Something happens when guys decide they’ve won you. It’s almost like they think, “Game over.” Their minds are already on their next challenge. What is going on?!

And how can you stop it from wrecking your relationship?

-It’s Not Just You—ALL Women Experience This (That’s Why They Ask for Help)-

Many women give up on love. They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him off. But other women try a different approach. They get help. Relationship coach James Bauer is one of the people they turn to.

He noticed that many clients were coming to him, complaining about guys who were blowing hot and cold. Everything would be going great, and then it was like…

Something would change overnight.

A guy who’d been warm, affectionate and interested would suddenly become distant. He’d no longer have any time for her. He wouldn’t smile in greeting. He’d stop making eye contact. His kisses were brusque. Wanting to help his clients, James investigated.

And what he discovered made sense of everything. He knew why these men were backing away. He knew what they needed … and what they weren’t getting.

It didn’t come down to anything wrong with these women.

Rather, it all came down to something he called “The Hero Instinct.”

-Most Women Do Something that Drives Men Away… Without Ever Realizing It-

One of the most wonderful things about women is how naturally caring they are.

Look at you. You’re always there for your guy. You look after him. You always make time for him. You’d do anything for him.

You never realize that, in the process…

You’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.

You see, he wants to be your hero. He doesn’t want you to be his hero.

Men love heroes. Look at how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.

Every man on Earth, from the time he was a boy, dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the world—and get the girl at the same time.

Most men don’t get to indulge their world-saving side in their 9-5 jobs.

Circumstances don’t call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing their superman side. Maybe they can’t save the world. But they can still get the girl.

Getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero. It takes superhuman confidence. Superhuman charm. Superhuman immunity to pain. Now, all he needs to find is…

A girl who needs a hero. Do You Need a Hero? Let me guess… That’s not you.

You’re strong. You’re independent. You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can take care of yourself. You’re never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of looking for a man to complete you.

Instead, you have a lot to offer a man. You’re generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to find a man who’s willing to receive all you have to give.

And that’s why heroes aren’t showing up in your life. That’s why you’ve ended up with so many takers instead. Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry. If you want a hero, then you need to advertise for one. Here’s how.

-3 Ways You Can Invite a Hero into Your Life, Starting Today-

1. Ask a guy for help.

Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation. No, that doesn’t make you needy. It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.

2. Take pleasure in male company.

Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team? So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles? He’s a guy. It’s okay. You don’t need him to be more like you, because you’ve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.

3. Let him earn your respect.

Superheroes love challenges. They don’t want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. They don’t want your love handed to them on a plate. They want to earn it. There’s one thing they crave even more than a woman’s eternal enduring love: A challenge. So give him opportunities to prove himself. You don’t have to do the work of winning him over. Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.

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Jul 5, 2018

My 18 Secrets to What Makes Men Tick ~ Women Need to Know This, But Fall Short On?

Men Will Talk About Feelings:

Was your guy raised as a traditional, stoic, man's man? If so, let me walk you through 18 relationship secrets; This information was gathered from psychologists in the USA who study gender roles.

Secret No. 1: It may be easier for your man to talk about feelings indirectly. Ask what he'd do during a romantic weekend. Or what he thought the first time he met you. His answers will reveal how he feels and bring you closer.

Men Say 'I Love You' With Actions:

Some men prefer to show their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say "I love you" by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard, or even taking out the trash -- anything that makes your world a better place.

Men Take Commitment Seriously:

Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they want to make sure they are onboard for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

He Really Is Listening:

When you're listening to someone talk, you probably chime in with a "yes" or "I see" every now and then. It's your way of saying, "I'm listening." But some guys don't do this. Just because a man isn't saying anything doesn't mean he's not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you're saying.

Shared Activities Form Bonds:

Men strengthen their relationships with their partners through doing things together, more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner.

Men Need Time for Themselves:

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other.

Men Learn From Their Fathers:

If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his dad. How they are with each other and how the father relates to his own partner can predict how a man will relate to his wife.

Men Let Go Faster Than Women:

Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you may still want to talk about last night's argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it.

Men Don't Pick Up on Subtle Cues:

Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial expressions. And they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman's face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.

Men Respond to Appreciation:

Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting: Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.

Men Think About Sex ... A Lot:

OK, so maybe this one is no secret. Most men under age 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And that's not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do, and their fantasies are much more varied. They also think more about casual sex than women do. But thinking is not the same as doing.

Men Find Sex Significant:

It's a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do.

He Likes It When You Initiate Sex:

Most guys feel as though they're the ones who always initiate sex. But they also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more often. Don't be shy about letting your guy know you're in the mood. Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction for both of you.

Guys Aren't Always Up for Sex:

Men, much to many women's surprise, aren't always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, "not tonight," it doesn't mean he's lost interest in you. He just means he doesn't want to have sex right then.

Men Like Pleasing Their Partner:

Your pleasure is important to your man. But he won't know what you want unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don't like. If you can tell him clearly in a way that doesn't bruise his ego, he'll listen. Because he knows he'll feel good if you feel good.

Guys Get Performance Anxiety:

Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your guy may worry about his body, technique, and stamina. If you can help him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful.

Men May Stray When Needs Aren't Met:

If a man doesn't feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn elsewhere for satisfaction. For one man, that may mean burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. And some men cheat. To avoid this, partners need to work together to meet each other's needs.

He's Vested in You:

Most men realize there's a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour -- not just each other's company, but the entire life you've built together. If you're willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man will be, too.

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Jul 4, 2018

Love: Are You Much like Your Partner?

Just how similar are you with your companion? Agreed that both of you are in love, and also enjoy each other's togetherness. You like each other as well as wish to live together till you pass away. You may state that you love him/her with your heart and soul. What regarding similarities in between both of you? Is your love result of these similarities? Or regardless of your similarities you love each other? Similarities influence relationship to some extent and are necessary to talk about.

Work passion: Do you have the same work interest? Are you qualified in the exact same stream - so-to-speak? or your job interests are different? Common job interests result in better understanding, yet this is not extremely important.

Leisure activities: Do you have similar leisure activities? Also if they are not typical, do any of you have any leisure activity that the other partner dislikes or just doesn't show any support no matter what it is?

Values: how similar are your beliefs and also values? Do you support the same political parties (democratic,republician, etc) or are your views opposite toward each other? What about your viewpoints reguarding major life problems that occur? What about your goals (family, kids, money)? Are your thought processes compatible or nowhere near close? These could make a significant distinction in the quality of love as well as life you're going to have with this person.

Living together could end up being challenging if the inconsistencies are overwhelming. Disputes can drain all your energy as well as time. There is no time at all to focus on love as well as living together if majority of time is invested in ironing out distinctions. It is simpler to really feel love in the beginning if the similarities are few. As times passes, discontentment surges and cracks show up in the relationship. It is tough to live with a person who's completely opposite from you!

Lastly: More compatibility you have can always help in making love last for a longer time; Choose your partner wisely.

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Jul 3, 2018

Five Things That's Making Him Pull Away?

Several things cause people to respond in certain ways within relationships. Couples rarely celebrate or even acknowledge the things drawing them toward one another. Only after a couple's implosion does one start looking at situations leading to one of them from leaving. Understanding how general things make individuals sacrifice the relationship may clarify what went wrong where.

1. Outside Forces

Any number of things beyond the scope of the relationship may cause him to end things. Seeing these items clearly sometimes point to what truly matters to him.

Work: Many couples are sacrificed on the alter of the corporate climb. He might feel more of his identity aligns with his occupation rather than his relational commitments.

Hobbies: A wide variety of interests including sports, gambling, adrenaline based challenges or video gaming drives a wedge between otherwise healthy people. While easy to assume a level of immaturity, a man of any age may find himself drawn to something feeding a sense of danger or vitality.

Another Relationship: The ultimate in outside forces ends relationships. Below this single category, many problems crop up eating away at the foundation of a relationship.

2. Uncertainty about His Own Desires

He may pull away when faced with needing to answer honestly about what he wants. A man in relationship finds putting into words the breadth and scope of his feeling difficult. He might fear saying the wrong thing, so he opts for saying nothing at all.

3. Misreading Signals

A man in a relationship will pull away due to a simple misunderstanding about what is being said or implied. Depending on relational history, he can attribute a wide range of things to incorrect meanings. He can chose stepping aside rather than fighting for a relationship believing it is what his partner wants.

4. Feeling Pressured

This reason gets attributed to numerous men. Despite the commonality of the scenario, it does not invalidate the cause of them pulling away. An important thing to remember is the sense of pressure, real or perceived, triggers a response that likely would have occurred for other reasons. One should be careful not to absorb too much blame. His sense of the situation tends to be hypersensitive.

5. Poor Relational Examples

As a reason, this collection falls into two major categories. Understanding both, in light of similar outcomes, grants peace for one's role in their partner's choice. Let's review the areas individually.

Modeled Relationships: Seeing the relationship of their parents and close family members provides a template for his relational patterns moving forward. Someone from a broken home can doubt if their relationships will last. Even those from a stable home with parents who are still together may feel intense pressure to live up to the example they saw. In both scenarios, they end the relationship before disappointing themselves and their partner.

Relational Experiences: Every relationship builds on the next. Following a string of unhealthy relationships, he might believe no relationship is designed to survive. He fails to accurately see the health of the existing relationship. The man also may end things to fulfill the well established pattern.

In all situations, one must take responsibility for their role in the relationship while acknowledging their partner makes decisions for a variety of reasons. Some of the reasons line up in logical pattern. Some reasons are excuses to not be hurt. His pulling away is never a solitary indictment on the relationship or you. Take care not to be harmed by others decisions. It is the only way to stay whole and move forward.

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Jul 1, 2018

Is Love Like in the Movies?

Movies make love seem little more than mad capped make believe. After watching a variety of films, individuals start to long for the way things exist on the big screen. Such desires are natural and may stir a central question for everyone searching for true love. Can love ever be like it is in the movies? Understanding key breakdowns of relationships and movies point to the answer, so let's see how the pieces fit together.

Recognizing Fiction and Reality

Hardcore skeptics will point an icy finger toward the mantra espoused by countless parents after their kids see a particularly rambunctious movie leading them karate chop their younger sibling or string a zip line from the tree house. "Don't you know the difference between a movie and real life?" While most of us distinguish between the two, movies and love share a key item. They both tap into a well spring of emotion deep within us all. So looking at relationships outside the romantic comedy can demonstrate the pitfall of relying on Hollywood for relational advice.

Sports Movies: Countless movies in this genre position the relationship as either background support or an obstacle to success. No one wants to be an extra in someone else's story.

Action Adventure: Taken by the villain, left behind to hope for the hero's safe return or some relational prize to be won at the adventure's end. These roles could be fulfilled by a well carved statue rather than a real person.

Wacky Comedies: The partner, often the stable and reasonable person, suffers the consequences of bad behavior, poor decisions and general thoughtlessness. In the end, the prospect of becoming an emotional punching bag is no one's idea of true love.

Things Needed to Pull Off Movie Love

Talk to anyone in the film industry and they will inform you how much is needed to create successful movies. If one wants movie love, these elements become critical to first form and then sustain such love. Seeing how much must go right gives a clearer picture of the challenge facing anyone wanting love like in the movies.

* The Script: A sharp story after several drafts means sticking things out when everything must be rolled back to the start.

* Sound Track: Music makes everything better and requires an available sound engineer with a dramatic swell when you need it.

* The Cast: Actors willing to perform for a director with a singular vision.

* Suspension of Disbelief: This is the hardest because you are often the one trying craft the story.

Each part possesses the potential to puncture the thin veil keeping reality at bay. Also, one requires their partner to buy into their story while surrendering aspects of their own desires. Would it really be love if one of the people have no choice in it?

It Does Happen, Sorta

Moments occur in life when things take a surreal turn. Everything might come together. A sense of being watched when going about everyday task. Maybe a particularly athletic move causes the idea of doing a stunt crosses one's mind. These kismet moments happen in relationships too. But what does one need to remember?

Like in real life, the characters do not know what is going to happen next even though a story has been written. The way a story unfolds in the movie makes the path appear clear and inevitable. Life is never so neat. Multiple decisions can send those in love spiraling far away from their desired path.

Romance in movies give the illusion of effortlessness. During the big scene, a variety of people established the set, props and countless other conditions so the shower of rose petals or fake snow comes right on schedule. Real gestures of love often fall to one person. The reward comes from the time, planning and effort applied for the love of a single person.

Stories continue after the credits roll even if they are not seen. Movies, like all stories, have a planned ending. Ask anyone if they want love to end following a finite period and they will likely say no. Almost everyone experiencing true love begs for one more day, one more hour and even one more minute with the one they are with because they never want their story to end.

Movies, though fun escapism, are unable to capture the complexities of true love. Love expands to fit the vastness of one's heart and how they combine with another person. While love in movies seems easy, it is like the candy shell keeping all the good, messy stuff hidden. Be careful not to minimize love to only the manageable parts. Embrace the varied shades of love and enjoy it all.

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