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The Upside of Arguing, But Stll A Little Tricky!

Ask any couple how much they enjoy the moments when they attempt to come to a consensus about an important decision or hash out a disagreement and most will confess nothing about the situation appeals to them. A few might enjoy the debate. Even allowing for the juice provided by confrontation, a far smaller percentage see the true benefits brought about by arguing with one another. Part of the reason for the reticence to embrace arguing as healthy centers around most people's introduction to the concept. Hearing raised voices and tears implants a bad taste in everyone's mouth. In order to begin a discussion, one needs to reframe the role of arguing. The emotionally charged nature of arguing must be boiled down to a spirited discussion. Once in place, couples can see great benefits within the context of arguing. All Is Quiet The concept of arguments being destructive because they are ideas expressed at a high volume never takes into account the slow erosion of a relations