Sometimes I wonder how such utterly ridiculous expressions become commonly accepted. If you're close to someone, you're going to step on their toes occasionally. And when you hurt someone,
ESPECIALLY YOUR SPOUSE, it's important to say,
Not only is it important to say "I'm sorry," but it's important to say it well. Usually the words alone are not enough. You have to get inside your spouse's heart, feel their pain, and in order for them to forgive you, they have to feel COMPLETELY
understood. Otherwise, you might say, "I'm sorry," and your spouse might say, "It's okay," but nothing will change. You could be stuck in that hurt for years.
I wish for you and your spouse that you SUCCESSFULLY move through your past hurt and that "I'm sorry" restores your relationship the way those 2 magic words have the power to do.